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⌈ Secret Post #6897 ⌋

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Petty vent about family

[(Anonymous)]

I LOVE MY MOM SO MUCH so I hate to bitch. But. My dad can be kind of difficult to deal with so I sympathize with my mom and more often than not I'm on her side. But she also has this FRUSTRATING habit of, like, not making a decision, and then getting mad when no one else makes one either. When she's just as capable of doing it?? (Or when people are asking for opinions she won't say anything, then complains about the decision everyone else made when we literally asked her to help us decide.) They got into a fight today because it was kind of foggy this morning and they had planned to go out and run errands. And both meant to go and intended to go but neither one of them ever simply said Hey, the fog has let up and I'm ready, let's go. Again she could have said hey let's go....but she didn't....and then she got mad because he didn't either. And now it's really tense in here and it's honestly just so dumb.

Re: Petty vent about family

[(Anonymous)]

That kind of thing drives me nuuuuts, you have my sympathies nonny!

Re: Petty vent about family

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you!! 🫂 It's a little better now and I hope they won't get into it again before bed!

Re: Petty vent about family

[(Anonymous)]

My parents have a similar way of (not) communicating. I also tend to be more sympathetic toward my mom because my dad's got a short fuse and he can be loud with his complaints.
I'm sorry there is tension in the household now. You're doing your best in your situation. It's kind of you to care about your parents.

Not trying to give advice if you're not looking for it, but something I learned in group therapy is that it's not my job to hold other people's feelings/POVs when there is tension/a fight going on.

Please be kind to yourself, and know that you are always allowed to show up for yourself.

Re: Petty vent about family

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you, I appreciate that a lot. And it does help! I know this isn't my fault in any way, but it started off when I went to the living and was surprised they were still here, and said Oh you guys haven't left yet?? I know the fight was going to happen anyway but that was what triggered it so I do feel a little responsible. Also if I had gone out SOONER and said something they might have still argued a little but it would have been early enough they would have gone, maybe.

But that about not holding other people's feelings, does help. Thank you for that.

Re: Petty vent about family

[greghousesgf]

I'm so sorry. You don't pick your family, do you?

Re: Petty vent about family

[(Anonymous)]

Very true! It could be much much worse and I feel bad for complaining, but this was just such a silly frustrating thing that it bothered me a little. And I then felt obligated to hide away the whole day to avoid the tension. But it's ok!! Tomorrow is a new day.

Re: Petty vent about family

[(Anonymous)]

"Or when people are asking for opinions she won't say anything, then complains about the decision everyone else made when we literally asked her to help us decide"

this took me back to my last job. one person in particular REFUSED to contribute in any way to making decisions but would bitch and moan up a storm about whatever we did.

that person genuinely was a contributing factor in why i left that place.

Re: Petty vent about family

[(Anonymous)]

I totally get it, OP. We can love our parents and still be aware of their absolutely maddening, annoying traits. It's always annoying when people manufacture their own problems and then refuse to take responsibility.