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shamelessly stolen from reddit because I'm curious

Willing to sleep in separate beds and preferably separate bedrooms. I have major insomnia. I need perfect silence and darkness, so I sleep with ear plugs and an eye mask. Anything can wake me up. I can't imagine that I'd be able to sleep very well with someone next to me. I already have had issues sharing a hotel room with my mother in the past because she sometimes snores so loudly I can hear hear over my earplugs.

I had trouble sleeping with a friend in the same hotel room... because they were breathing. Yeah

Yup. I just have to have quiet. A noise machine can help, but only a little.

they must not only be non-religious but anti-religious and anti-religion. any religious is a hard pass and merely non-religious isn't sure enough. ex-religious is a good sign because they're the least likely to randomly find religion again later and likely have practice warding off religious family members.

this doesn't mean be rude to religious people, and it doesn't mean fedora tipping militant atheist pls no. other people should be free to live their lives as they wish and may they be happy with that elsewhere, but if religion isn't aggressively banned from our life/home there won't be an 'our'

That they're willing to take care of me financially if I can't take care of myself.

No smoking or vaping, or allowing smoking and vaping, in and around my home. Tobacco, weed, whatever - no smoking. No vaping. At all. Not even in the garden, unless you're right at the bottom of it and it can't blow into the house. If my partner couldn't accept that, I would break up with them with no hard feelings.

Hard agree. Between my asthma and my migraines, being around smoke is not good for my health.

+10000 Absolutely no smokers, nope nope nope

They have to be respectful of my food hangups and quirks. They don't have to eat the same foods that I do, but they have to not belittle me, or make fun of me, or nag me, even "teasingly," for my eating. I am not a big meat eater because it grosses me out; I am willing to go to the steakhouse and just eat a side salad, but do not tell me to "just try a little bit" of this thing or comment or complain about it. I deal with my own shit and don't make it other people's problem, so they have to respect me on it or we're done.

I cannot stand people who make fun of someone's food quirks.

Granted, I would not be able to partner up in the first place with someone who only eats chicken nuggies and no vegetables or something, though.

me too. i have had food quirks my entire life due to my autism. it's mainly food textures. i simply cannot eat certain things or i will quite literally vomit. i'm not *trying* to be picky, i will try new things if i am able to, but when i say i can't eat xyz, i mean i can't fucking eat it. i will not tolerate anyone being shitty to me about it. i can't help it any more than someone who uses a wheelchair can help needing a wheelchair.

No smoking or vaping, no drugs, no religion, amd I waffle on this one but lean towards must be vegetarian. Though honestly I don't think those are very unconventional.

I'm open to what kind they read, but they absolutely must read books.

Also just a sense of curiosity is a must.

Can't be a conspiracy nut.

I just had a 15+ year long friendship go down the drain because of this & can't imagine going through that with a romantic partner. It's a special kind of agony when your person is no longer "safe".

Not pushy about specific models of therapy, or pushy in general about therapy. I've had some crappy therapy experiences and while I'm not anti-therapy or against seeing a therapist myself when needed, I really don't like hearing "oh IFS/DBT/whatever will change your life," different models are best suited to different people/situations and aren't one size fits all magical cures. There can be an evangelizing attitude sometimes from people who have found a model helpful and can't imagine you wouldn't. Plus, I really can not stand when people try to be an arm chair therapist and diagnose others with unwanted, inaccurate advice.

This is oddly specific, but I've ran into it with friends a few times and once with a partner. I guess you could expand this to pushy medical advice in general, I want my partner to be honest and tell me when they have a concern for my physical or mental health but leave the actual treatment plan between me and the doctor please!

Not listing because if I had to there would be so many things that one would ask are you sure you want a partner and the answer is no lol I don’t thats why staying single

Saaaaaaame. I went through a long, shitty relationship where I compromised so many things, and I will NEVER do that again. NEVER. I am not saying I will 100% never have a partner again, but I am 99% saying that. For me personally, there is simply nothing better than only having to please myself and getting to have full control over my own life without having to take someone else into consideration. I tend to be a people-pleasing doormat and have a hard time with boundaries, and it's way too easy for people to take advantage of that. So I'm much better off if I don't let any relationship develop in the first place.

No extreme sports. Find someone else to ID your scattered remains at the bottom of El Capitan.

Valid. I like this, 10/10 response to the prompt.

No picky eaters. I love to cook and I love to try new foods (especially foods from other countries), so if you aren't willing to do that along with me then that's a hard pass.

In the hypothetical world where I really wanted a partner, no woo stuff. I was gonna say no religion, but tbh as long as they weren't cruel or condescending to nonbelievers in general and neither evangelized at me nor had concerns for my soul or whatever, I probably wouldn't care. But alternative medicine beyond ginger tea for an upset stomach and mint for headaches or similar is gonna make me wary, antivax fuckery makes me furious, and constant talk of auras/vibes/I don't trust Capricorns is gonna annoy the shit out of me.

Also no politically conservative or MAGA bullshit, but I doubt that's uncommon!

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What is your unconventional "I need this in a partner" that you will not negotiate on?

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So many things, which is prob why I am single

They must read books.

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