[ SECRET POST #6945 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6945 ⌋

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[Bridgerton]


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[A Court of Thorns and Roses, Ice Planet Barbarians]



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[Of the Devil]


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Comments

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[(Anonymous)]

"Assholes smell blood in the water and will take advantage. Even people who aren't generally assholes will frequently take advantage because you let them do it, so they think it's okay."

This is what gets me! I agree that asshole personality types can sniff out people like me from a mile away. And then they latch on and don't want to let go, and I have a hard time shaking them. I feel like I've really struggled to have quality, lasting, equitable adult friendships. It's so hard to meet people. And it's frustrating when it's the non-assholes because *I* don't/won't take advantage of someone even if they let me. So I get mad when other people do it because why are you acting that way. But then again if I don't tell them I Guess they don't know.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

You don't have to deliberately shake them, they will depart on their own (with great shrieks of betrayal) when you start to say no to them. My partner struggled with this (after growing up in a family where one sibling had to be catered to at all times otherwise she would make life miserable for everyone) and the thing that helped her start saying no was to take five minutes before agreeing to something, to think it through. Often she still said yes, but it helped turn off the instant people-pleasing over time.