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⌈ Secret Post #6984 ⌋

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Re: I have anger issues and find it hard to forgive.

[(Anonymous)]

I feel the older I get, the less tolerance I have for stupid bullshit. I used to give second, third, fourth, fiftieth chances and now I honestly just get done sooner with people these days. I'm trying to make a three strikes rule or at least talk to a person once about something offensive they're doing (I mean objectively, not something I personally find tasteless), but I find more and more that I tend to disengage sooner than I did when I was younger.

For the record, you don't have to engage with anyone as an adult, for any reason (obviously I'm not speaking of obligations you may have signed up for and can't quit). Granted, if it's a place of work, you might have no choice, but at least there you could do minimal interaction and be on your way.

Re: I have anger issues and find it hard to forgive.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, this is exactly it. I used to give people lots of second chances, try to give them the benefit of the doubt even for long term patterns of negative behavior, or try to reason with them. I just don't have the energy for any of that any more. Giving people too many chances usually ends in them taking advantage of your tolerance and leniency. Trying to reason with people who are irrational just doesn't work out, because they didn't arrive at their irrational beliefs via reason in the first place. I feel like sometimes I ought to be nicer and more patient but good god I'm tired.

For friends and acquaintances that I have no professional ties to, fuck 'em, they're getting dropped. For family, this is harder but I've been distancing myself from aggravating family members who never seem to change and aren't interested in treating people well. My time and energy is better spent on the people who actually bring something to my life. I got in touch with an old friend last month and we had a great catch-up and now we talk almost every day.

Re: I have anger issues and find it hard to forgive.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, it's great, honestly. I can see a second chance for an honest mistake, but no more, none.

I hold myself in too high esteem to put up with assholery if I don't have to. The peace is priceless.