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⌈ Secret Post #6984 ⌋

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Re: Also talking about perimenopause

[(Anonymous)]

You're not going to be like her, I promise. I'm one of two people in my house currently going through perimenopause and like... yeah, it SUCKS and it fucks up your emotions. It doesn't remove your ability to *deal with* your emotions, though!

Like, yes, you might sometimes burst into tears where you never would have burst into tears before. A lot of things are making me cry now. At four in the morning it was Samwise Gamgee. Sometimes it's a song. Sometimes it's someone else's D&D character going through a hard time. That part is real. And yes, you might find you have a much shorter fuse, you might struggle more managing your temper-- you might get angry or frustrated over something that you recognize as an unreasonable thing to feel so worked up about! And yes, you might snap.

But, you can also apologize when you've let your emotions get the best of you. You can own up to it when you see yourself in the wrong even if you FELT so strongly in the moment that you had trouble holding back. You can also give colleagues a heads-up if you feel like you are hanging on by a thread, to let them know hey, I'm dealing with a lot of stress today, it is nothing personal and I will do my best to be professional. If I do need to take a minute to step away (when possible) before I can be a person again, that is NOT on you, I really appreciate your understanding today. (if you bake, you can also be the person who brings baked goods to the office and people will forgive you a LOT if they know you as a bringer of food)

It's not fun and it's not easy and you're not going to feel in control of your emotions all the time but perimenopause doesn't turn you into an unreasonable monster. For me, I'm having it after having PCOS and I genuinely did not realize I was going into perimenopause for... well, I couldn't say how long, just because my hormones have always been fucked up, and so in some ways it is making perimenopause seem a lot less crazy-- it DOES suck! I am very ready to be post-menopausal! But, I've always kind of been low-key ready to be post-menopausal because my menopausal is so baseline bad. For my sister who did not have PCOS, there are a lot of changes that are more stark, she's going from very regulated to the chaos that is early perimenopause, but like... again, she knows how to behave, she lets the people around her know if she's feeling really fragile or short-tempered, cries a little more over movies/k-dramas/the olympics, and mostly gets through the day without unloading anything unreasonable on someone else. And, if all else fails, an apology.

Re: Also talking about perimenopause

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you!
Your answer genuinely made me feel better. I am someone who have trouble regulating emotions being this close to peri just gets me anxious. Couple of last days managed to trigger my anxieties argh.

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