[ SECRET POST #7014 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #7014 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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01. [SPOILERS for Big Mouth (kdrama)]




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02. [SPOILERS for Call the Midwife, series 15 finale]




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03. [SPOILERS for Call the Midwife]




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04. [WARNING for discussion of pedophilia]




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05. [WARNING for discussion of ableism]




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06. [WARNING for discussion of JKR/transphobia]




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07. [WARNING for discussion of transphobia, racism]



























Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 00 secrets from Secret Submission Post #1001.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Comments

Re: Aging parents.

[(Anonymous)]

You four are amazing for trying to help him! Some people just can’t be helped and it sucks when they’re people we care about. I’m sorry </3

Re: Aging parents.

[kaijinscendre]

Thanks. It does suck because I literally have a garage apartment he could live in but he says, "Oklahoma is boring." YOU ARE LIVING IN A HOUSE THAT IS ROTTING AROUND YOU.

Re: Aging parents.

[(Anonymous)]

I bet it's more about losing his independence (such as it is) than it is about how boring Oklahoma is. My dad is the same way about assisted living. Good to know that he'd rather die by tripping and falling and a stack of magazines he won't give up collapsing on top of him so that one of his kids will find his body. That's way better than assisted living!

Re: Aging parents.

[kaijinscendre]

He doesn't even do much! Just hangs around his house. But wants to stay there and die I guess. I've checked out a bit because he just won't listen to anyone.

Re: Aging parents.

[(Anonymous)]

I think that's all you can do, really. A lot of older people are determined to avoid scary change, and there's a hard limit to how much you can do without their cooperation. One of the saddest things I read in the r/AgingParents forum are people whose parents are like that - refusing to leave a house that was falling apart around them and becoming a serious hazard, won't move, won't sell, won't let anyone fix it, won't fix it themselves.

The advice was, you have to wait for the Big Accident. It'll come, and you hope your parent survives it because it's only when they land themselves in the hospital/rehab that you can take control and clean their house against their will or force them to move. I think they're right, but that's depressing as fuck.