[ SECRET POST #7014 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #7014 ⌋

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01. [SPOILERS for Big Mouth (kdrama)]




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02. [SPOILERS for Call the Midwife, series 15 finale]




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03. [SPOILERS for Call the Midwife]




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04. [WARNING for discussion of pedophilia]




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05. [WARNING for discussion of ableism]




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06. [WARNING for discussion of JKR/transphobia]




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07. [WARNING for discussion of transphobia, racism]



























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Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 00 secrets from Secret Submission Post #1001.
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Comments

Re: You ever find someone who has a lot of drama, and realize they do it to themselves?

[(Anonymous)]

AYTR
Yeah, I don't know if Betty is intentionally being unlikeable/stirring the pot or if she is just so hyperfocused on competing with people who want to like her that she doesn't see how her behavior is unpleasant.

Like, thinking back now, the whole tattoo parlor/dinner reservations thing...at the time, I thought it was simply Betty wanting to add to the plans to feel proactive but not really understanding that she needs to factor in our dinner plans too.
But now...was she trying to change our plans in hopes that Nikki and I would simply drop our original plans to do what Betty wants because Betty is just so cool and has better ideas? Like, that was her attempt at trying to become the "Alpha"/"leader" in our group?

Huh. That does make sense...
If that's Betty's train of thought, she'll just keep finding nice people to burn bridges with.
=(
As much as I want to be a source of support she can turn to (because I know unlikeable, male centered women tend to have little to no support system outside of their parents and/or significant other), I keep coming to see that I have to keep her at quite the arm's distance. Because like Megan Thee Stallion said "only bitch I'm in a competition with is me".

Like, I got into doing nails and shared pictures of the work I did on my younger sister with Betty a couple days ago. Betty then spent the rest of the day at work showing off the work she did when she was in Cosmetology school to anyone who'd listen.
Like, OK Betty. I get it. You're totally better at doing nails than me even though you haven't done any sort of nail art since Cosmetology school years ago, and it's interesting you're bringing this up after a quick 2 minute conversation we had where I talked about doing my sister's nails.

And much like a lot of conversations and hang outs we have had in the past, I usually wouldn't think this hard about my interactions or the behavior or someone, but when so many red flags keep coming up, I can't help but think about it. So that I can question
1) if I'm being a judgmental bitch
2) if I am placing myself in situations that bring unnecessary trouble
3) where my boundaries lie with other people, because the only person and actions I can control are myself

Thanks for engaging with my long post. It's given me some comfort knowing that I'm not simply caught up in work drama. That Betty's behavior is a lot to deal with and noticeable in not-great ways.