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Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

I feel your frustration nonny! I've been frustrated with friends being crappy with timing and feeling like my time was wasted.

Some people are so used to getting things done "on the fly" they don't consider how difficult making plans and following through can be if they don't prepare well. It's not like when we were young with a lot of free time and barely have anything/anyone to be responsible for. Where you can waste hours "making plans" before finally meeting up.

Maybe it's a subconscious attempt to recapture youth, where "making plans" was literally half the fun of hanging out with friends. Thinking back, some of the wild stories I have with friends start with "we were making plans to hang out".
These days, when I make plans there needs to be a time frame. I have stuff I have to take care of before and after planned hang out. Some of it serious, some of it not so serious.

If your friend truly wanted to hang out with you, they might have to think about respecting your time more. In their 40s and with kids, that sort of poor planning is really disappointing (and annoying). And if they don't want to leave their kids/family, they shouldn't be making plans and canceling with friends.
It's annoying and feels passive aggressive. Had a friend who did that with me when she had kids. Now, I visit her house if I want to hang out with her. She's not a friend who I make plans with, she's a friend I visit.