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fandomsecrets2026-06-05 07:16 pm
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[ SECRET POST #7091 ]
⌈ Secret Post #7091 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[The Young Ones (1980s britcom)]
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02. [WARNING for discussion of fatphobia/body image issues/eating disorders]
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03. [WARNING for discussion of abuse]
[Star Wars]
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04. [WARNING for discussion of sexual harassment]
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05. [WARNING for discussion of JKR/transphobia]
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06. [WARNING for discussion of JKR/transphobia]
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07. [WARNING for discussion of racism, cultural appropriation]
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Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 00 secrets from Secret Submission Post #1012.
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Re: RIP Giles
This hits home for me. I'm about to lose my dad. Do you mind if I ask how you got through the loss of your father?
Re: RIP Giles
Quite honestly it was the new year and going into 2024 that finally got me out of my hole. It was like I needed that reset, something changed in my mind. I still miss him, it comes out at times like this, or something will remind me of him and I'll think of him. But I can think of him without breaking down or going numb. I feel sad, but I also feel happy in that I had him as my dad and have those memories. I'll never not miss him. But I'm okay.
The other thing I would add is my cat was so amazing. Having her there with me was so vital. She could tell we weren't doing well (mom or me). SHe also was missing dad too, because he had adored her. That year is when she started sleeping not just on my bed but on top of me. She just took it on to look after her humans.
Re: RIP Giles
Just be kind to yourself. Don't put any expectations on yourself. Grief is different for everyone. I didn't cry. I maybe cried once or twice months later. I'm just not someone who cries. I didn't feel overwhelming sad those first few months, I felt numb.
Whatever shape your grief takes, that is okay. Be kind to yourself, be very intentional about self care.
Re: RIP Giles
I wish I still had my cat but it would have been hard taking care of him and my dad at the same time. My dad is in the hospital now but when he was home, it was so hard watching him be in pain.
I've been grieving him for a while now since he was diagnosis with cancer a few years ago but in the past couple of months, it really got bad. I'm the overly sensitive type so I've been crying every day, even at work. If I try to hold it in, it feels like my head is going to explode. I'm just dreading the holidays and my birthday coming up later this month. I feel exhausted and can't sleep well at night.
I know everyone has to go through it at some point but I just needed to talk to someone who's been through it too. I will continue to try to be kind to myself because it's what my dad would want. I'm sure it's what your dad would want for you too. Thank you again for talking to me about this.
Re: RIP Giles