[ SECRET POST #7105 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #7105 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Late night venting.

[(Anonymous)]

Father's Day (in the U.S.) is coming up this weekend and I'm feeling grumpy about it because I'm not on particularly good terms with my dad but still feel guilty if I don't wish him a happy father's day. It's such a nothingburger kind of thing that it's dumb to get annoyed about doing it, but our relationship has deteriorated a lot lately and I'm irritated that I have to act like a loving child when he's not a very loveable father.

Re: Late night venting.

[(Anonymous)]

Would it help to frame it as being a dutiful child rather than a loving one? You're holding up your end, why the fuck isn't he holding up his?

Re: Late night venting.

[(Anonymous)]

That's kind of how I'm trying to think of it, but it's not very satisfying. I've been the dutiful one all my life and unfortunately, he really takes that for granted. At this point, I don't even expect a loving father. I just want a father who doesn't act like an entitled asshole when other people are working hard to do nice things for him.

Re: Late night venting.

[(Anonymous)]

DA

Could you get away with doing the absolute bare minimum? Don't go out of your way with a celebration or anything, just a quick voice mail "Hey Dad, wanted to wish you a Happy Father's Day."

And honestly consider some distance and even some therapy. I would guess he trained you and others in the family to cater to him like this, and there weren't any adults back in the day pushing back against it. But he's a big boy and it isn't other adults' responsibility to be his mood meter.