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fandomsecrets2010-03-23 04:32 pm
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Re: YES. WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN?
(Anonymous) 2010-03-24 03:37 am (UTC)(link)Your posts are coming off (to this anon) as saying "awww but it's not so bad! it could be a lot tougher! Look at my experiences with DC schools!"
As such, I can't help but feel you are in fact saying "you shouldn't get upset", which flies in the face of good communication.
Repeating "I don't think it's so bad, I've seen worse" is not going to make people any less angry. I am not you. I do not deal with the D.C public schools, nor do I wish to (although I do teach in a NYC public school). You are okay with the ways things are in the S/U comm (politics wise at least), while I've always found it repugnant. There is no magical happy middle ground, and we are not going to make each other See the Light.
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No. That is not the case. Theirs is not normal or civilized discourse, period. Quite frankly, if you really had the extensive experience with race/sociology discussion that you claim to have, you'd be able to recognize that, or at least recognize the possibility.
(Also I'm not going to play "let's one-up each other with our COOL STORIES BRO." Which is frustrating because I TOTALLY COULD. But I won't.)
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(Anonymous) 2010-03-24 03:53 am (UTC)(link)Re: YES. WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN?
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(Anonymous) 2010-03-24 04:03 am (UTC)(link)Re: YES. WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN?
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I mean, seriously, is that all it is? "Stop talking about race?" Are you sure it isn't "Don't tell me what to think about Uhura." Or "Don't jump on my/my friend's fic?" 'Cause that's what I'm seeing in these comments. I'm seeing Anons who have had their or their friend's fic criticized. I'm not saying I think that's cool but I don't think it should be conflated with honest discussions about race issues.
So yeah, my initial reaction is to say "M'thinks the lady(ies) doth protest too much."
But you are right, we won't convince each other of anything. It's been a good discussion though and food for thought, so thanks.
Re: YES. WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN?
(Anonymous) 2010-03-24 04:17 am (UTC)(link)THIS. I JUST SAID THE SAME THING.
(Anonymous) 2010-03-24 04:22 am (UTC)(link)Re: YES. WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN?
As I see it, the biggest issue is in no way overeagerness to talk about race; it's that a dissenting opinion is completely impossible, and if you DO disagree you are racist, period, accept it, ACCEPT IIIIIT Even if, um, the thing you disagree about doesn't have to do with race. It's so exhausting.
In my own time there I actually AGREED with basically all of the race stuff. I think there's absolutely racism (and misogyny) behind a lot of the bizarrely-justified distaste of the pairing, for example. That's why their rude and inexcusable behavior towards everyone who DIDN'T agree, or who made innocent mistakes, was so fucking frustrating to me. Even though our opinions were the same most of the time, they were absolutely no longer people I wanted to be associated with.
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I thought I remembered Cleo abjectly apologizing for all that (in the hair discussion)it's that a dissenting opinion is completely impossible, and if you DO disagree you are racist,
That is certainly a very difficult thing to have to work around and very frustrating.
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(Anonymous) 2010-03-24 04:19 am (UTC)(link)