fandomsecrets | [ SECRET POST #1475 ]

⌈ Secret Post #1475 ⌋

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Secrets Left to Post: 14 pages, 349 secrets from Secret Submission Post #211.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 2 - posted twice ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

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I don't get it. Like, do you delete all criticism of your work? Is that what this is saying?

just fyi, your secret doesn't make sense

I am going to assume you are ESL, and will also assume you write fic in your native language. So I will ignore the poor grammar and word choice.

However, why delete all criticism? I can see maybe deleting obvious troll comments, but not all bad reviews.

Let me get that right.

1. You post fics to comms.

2. You only want praise from other people on the comms, and systematically delete negative criticism.

3. You only like a comm if people only give you praise.

Did I get that right?

If I did... Well, grow up? A comm is not your personal LJ, and you're not entitled to praise only.

Deleting unfavorable comments is shitty, but damn, prosecuting you for something like that is even shittier.

Don't give up writing. And when you can't handle someone's negative comment(s), instead of deleting them, just try to ignore them to avoid any possible wank. Staying as wank-free as possible should make it easier to enjoy writing in the future. Best of luck.

God forbid anyone says anything bad about your work ever, huh?

I don't get all the anon hate. Making a public community post to bash her and her fic is worse than deleting a bad review.

Is it, though? She posted something on a comm, and then denied someone else the right to comment negatively in that same post. By doing so, I personally consider that she gave that negative commenter the right to post a public post of their own to re-post their negative review and additionally to complain about their original review having been deleted.

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cindyisboring.livejournal.com - 2011-01-16 22:14 (UTC) - Expand

I don't hate the anon, I just think deleting all bad reviews is a silly thing. Posting to bash anon is stupid, too, so really, two wrongs here.

OP: when I said BAD review, I meant BAD review, yeah, trolls, if it's a bad criticism, I can accept that of course

and thanks everyone, I was already feeling worse enough.

This was my first secret, thanks for letting me know to never post secrets again.

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Okay, you seem really sensitive about people saying shit about you. And if this is how you reacted to that review, I'm not really surprised that all this stuff happened. Also, Fandom Secrets, not the most supportive place! People are going to tell you what they think, and if you're not ready for that you shouldn't post a secret here.

But this whole flouncing thing is really emotionally manipulative. I was more sympathetic toward you until you posted this.

You're doing it again, you know :( You didn't say what you actually meant and yet now you're trying to emotionally blackmail an entire community because of what a few people said. That's not healthy!

You're not really gaining points with this melodramatic comment. It sounds like you desperately need validation.

Well, sorry, but your secret just read as if you were deleting everything, that's not positive feedback. I guess, you just chose the wrong words to desribe, what exactly you meant :)
That happens to everyone here once in a while, I guess (at least it also happened to me, too, and I saw a couple other secrets, where it apparently happened, too)

To get flame reviews sucks, but I'd recommend just ignoring them. That's what pisses off the people, who leave them, more than anything else without giving them excuses to harrass you-

same Anon

(Anonymous) - 2011-01-16 22:32 (UTC) - Expand

Let me give you two words of advice:

Grow.

Up.

Wow,you really can't take criticism. I hope that in real life you either handle it better or you find a way to get over that.

re: secret making- it's constructive criticism. In the future, make secrets that make sense. Everybody wins.

Word of advice 'til next time: Hang around a community like this a while before posting. Just read the atmosphere for a little bit.

Huh? Why is the secret removed? Or is it just me?

hooves.livejournal.com - 2011-01-16 22:57 (UTC) - Expand

theditz.livejournal.com - 2011-01-16 23:15 (UTC) - Expand

fictionalbf.livejournal.com - 2011-01-16 23:09 (UTC) - Expand

OP, this is not the way to handle criticism. This is what people call "flouncing" and "emotional blackmail". I'm willing to give you a bit of leeway seeing as how your writing comes off as someone who's first language is not English. Sometimes things get lost in translation.

Try to read the comments and actually read what people are saying rather than reacting only emotionally. It can be hard, when people are criticizing you, feeling like all people are doing is insulting you, but that's not what's going on.

You say that you can accept bad criticism, yet you came in and deleted your secret and flounced around here. That's not handling bad criticism. You've got some learning and growing to do.

theditz.livejournal.com - 2011-01-16 23:12 (UTC) - Expand

And not a single fuck was given that day

someone's a whiny little cunt.

YOU DID NOT JUST DELETE YOUR SECRET BECAUSE PEOPLE WEREN'T PITYING YOU, DID YOU?!

*roflmao*

A SECRET ABOUT DELETING THINGS THAT WEREN'T RECEIVED WELL GOT DELETED AFTER IT WASN'T RECEIVED WELL. WHY DID NO ONE SEE THIS COMING!?

omorka.livejournal.com - 2011-01-17 00:15 (UTC) - Expand

Yeah. OP you aren't ready to participate yet. You have to have a thicker skin than this. But thing is, the more you try, the more you let yourself fail, the easier it will be for you to forgive yourself your failures, the more you will be able to succeed.

Though it might seem like it, Fandom!Secrets isn't the easiest place to dip your toe, it's merely one where you won't face any long term consequences to your reputation.

Go back to your stories, be honest and say that you aren't ready for criticism (this will get rid of those who are legitimately trying to help you) and dismiss the rest as trolls. Cultivate a good friend, whose opinion you trust, who you will let read your stuff and give you advice. Work on it from there.