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[ SECRET POST #1490 ]

⌈ Secret Post #1490 ⌋

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Don't feel bad, OP. At least you have a halfway valid reason. I'm terrified of midgets and I always have been for no discernible reason. In fact, anything that's abnormal scares the shit out of me. Little people, people with deformities, amputees, even sometimes especially bad scars scare me, etc. I can't even sit in a wheelchair without getting freaked out and jumping back up. I'm getting the heebies jeebies just thinking about it.

It's just... It's like some kind of an extension of body-horror, for me. People are made to work a certain way, bodies should be a certain way, and when they aren't it scares me and creeps me out and makes me feel a little bit ill with terror. I don't want a million essays on ableism, because I'm not prejudiced against disabled people, I'm just scared of them. It's my irrational fear, like people who're scared of clowns or spiders. Bodies-gone-wrong is plain terrifying to me.

I don't think you or the OP have any reason to feel ashamed.

I know that the common conception is that fear inevitably leads to anger and hate (thank you, Yoda) but it's not necessarily the case. For instance I'm terrified of spiders, to the point where if I see when I freeze up and the rest of the world might as well shut down around me because I can't relax till the spider is gone. But I don't hate spiders, I can never kill them or let someone else kill them or even hurt them. And I'm aware I don't have any reason to hate them either as I'm bigger and it's not likely they're poisonous. I'm scared because...I just am. End of.

My niece seems to have a similar fear of people with autism (or just general behavior difficulties). Mostly because when she was six she got attacked by a 40 year old autistic woman who lived on her street just because she moved one of her plants (granted she shouldn't have been on her lawn but still). But she knows autistic people in her school and knows they're not all horrible and the difference between high-functioning autistic people and low-functioning. But she's still really scared of being alone with one and she admits she feels guilty but she can't help it.

I know that the common conception is that fear inevitably leads to anger and hate (thank you, Yoda) but it's not necessarily the case.
Hmh, I never thought of it that way. That makes totally sense. Thank you :)

I'm terrified of spiders, to the point where if I see when I freeze up and the rest of the world might as well shut down around me because I can't relax till the spider is gone. But I don't hate spiders, I can never kill them or let someone else kill them or even hurt them.

I realize this might sound kiiiind of creepy or weird, but thank you for this. So much. I'm pretty much the polar opposite of an arachnophobe, and I tend to get mucho distressed whenever people talk about killing spiders just because, unlike other things one might have a fear of, it's easy, so it's nice to see someone who won't kill them despite being legitimately terrified. ♥

/edges back out

The only insects I admit that I kill just for the hell of it are house-flies. They're so annoying, almost impossible to capture to put outside and are basically vermin. That's another reason I'm all for keeping spiders alive because they help take care of the little buggers. ^_^

I sort of have a weird respect for spiders. I worry that if I do ever kill one, hundreds will come and take revenge. /crazy

If I can catch a fly I'll put it outside, but if I can't I usually just smack it because one, it won't hurt the population one inch, and two, flies can be health hazards. But even if I'm viscerally terrified of a critter [fucking centipedes] I don't kill it, barring the instance of infestation, which is the only time when I think it's okay to kill bugs just for daring to be in one's house [poisonous or dangerous bugs not included]. /babble

LMAO well, I can pretty much guarantee that won't happen, but I have a lot of respect for spiders, too. I'm even supposed to be getting a tarantula [after ten plus years of begging] for Christmas, if I can ever find a breeder. :I

Centipedes are pretty creepy! Again though; I don't think I'd be able to kill one unless like you said it was an infestation. But ewww.

Oh god; I actually went on the tarantula comm out of some strange curiosity when they were spotlighted. Again, a sort of odd fascination, even though the pictures alone made my skin itch. I think that's the one pet I'd have to forbid my kids from getting or would stop me from living with someone. Snakes are another that make me nervous but I do have a strange fixation with and probably wouldn't mind having as lock as it was in a good cage. But to be fair; I've had about seven hamsters, two gerbils and five cats in my life and I know people who are terrified of rodents and cats. Different strokes, innit?

At first, I started to tense up and got ready to go into an "OMG ABLISM!!!" rant, but then I took a step back, reread what you said, and...realized that as horrible as it sounds, I have similar fears.

For me, I'll straight-out admit that I have a discomfort of people with mental conditions such as autism as well. But I'm going to say this...for me, it's because I have (high-functioning) autism. When I see other people who clearly have it, and when I have no choice but to be around those people, I look at them, I see how some of them can barely function and act incredibly awkward, I think "That is similar to what I have. That is probably how I look to other people. The way I'm seeing them is probably how the world sees me." It makes me uncomfortable to the point in which I want to deny any sort of associations with autism, and sometimes go as far as wanting to deny any sort of help, because I'm afraid of being thought of as one of them. At the same time, I realize that that attitude is not only incredibley ableist but self-destructive as well (such as wanting to avoid counseling when I need it), and feel terrible about it.

As for people with physical disabilities or deformities- For me, it's not so much a "fear" as it is a strange self-conscious feeling that anything I do will come off as rude. I feel like if I even glance at them it will seem like I'm staring, but if I avoid looking at them it will seem like I'm avoiding looking at them out of disgust, and it's hard to find that in-between stage where it doesn't feel like I'm doing either. So in that case as well, it's more of a concern about myself than about them.

Oh trust me, I was very weary when wording that comment because I didn't want to come off as offensive against people who have Aspergers or HF autism. I was just trying to word it from the view point of my niece. I'm actually a support worker for people with LF autism, downs syndrome, bipolar etc so it's not an issue for me as it's kind of part of my life.

Either way, sorry if at first did it offend you or anyone else and thanks so much for seeing past it if it did come off as "OMG!ABLISM." ^_^

I believe you. Considering the crap I often hear about mental disorders, what you said was actually understandable. I just kinda feel very self-conscious at times, but it isn't your fault so no worries!

I have this fear too, anon. I don't dislike disabled people but I'm terrified of them. I'm afraid it'll happen to me some day because my fear is so strong.

I have the same fear of spiders. Irrational fears with absolutely no basis in reality.

ITS OKAY! I know the cure! the sequel! Leprechaun in the hood! eliviate all your fears and let the sweet dulcet sounds of a leprechaun rapping sooth those terrors away

Oooh, that sounds fun.

*loads up YouTube*

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What just happened?

I can understand, because I have a similar fear but it's extended to most anything little, even kids, dolls and fleas.

I just hope you don't let your fear change your interactions with little people.

Apologies for the unsolicited advice, but while you can't help having it in the first place, you can help your fear, if you want to. For example, you can gradually increase non-threatening exposure to the fear-inducing stimulus - eventually the phobic reaction extinguishes by way of systematic desensitisation. Maybe watching some films starring actors with dwarfism who *aren't* playing sinister-looking supernatural creatures might help?

Maybe watching some films starring actors with dwarfism who *aren't* playing sinister-looking supernatural creatures might help?

I seriously want OP to watch "Willow" and report back now. Hell, I may go watch Willow now.

I had a similar fear of little people like the OP described, and one of the most helpful things for me was some sort of serendipitous exposure. I was by myself on a flight home a few years ago, and through some crazy coincidence I actually wound up sitting next to Matt Roloff, the dad from Little People Big World. Once I realized I was sitting next to a little person I started panicking. I know I sound like an asshole, but it's just some weird irrational fear I've always had. I was on the verge of tears and starting to hyperventilate, when he noticed.

He asked me if I was okay and I kinda tried to squeak out an answer, then he asked me if I was scared of flying and I just nodded because I wasn't going to be all "Nope, just scared of you!" He started talking to me about how there wasn't anything to be afraid of, and explaining the way planes work, and how we were perfectly safe, and so on. After a while I calmed down, and he just kept talking to me. I barely said two words to him the whole time, but he just kept talking and being really nice and really respectful. It struck me at the time that he went out of his way to comfort some random girl who was having a panic attack. So few people would do that. Even if he didn't know the real reason I was freaking out, it was still one of the sweetest things a stranger has ever done for me.

I can't say I'm completely cured of my phobia, but it's certainly been a lot less intense since then.

:D That's a lovely story. What a nice guy! Glad it helped you with your phobia.

It is horrible but so are most phobias. At least you realise it's horrible, and you can trace it back to something. Have you ever tried watching a film or TV show with a positive portrayal of a little person? Try watching something like 'The Station Agent' (or anything with Peter Dinklage in it for that matter).

Just jumping in to give a +1 to The Station Agent. I adore the fuck out of that film, but after a really upsetting incident showing my friends a film with a character who had cerebral palsy, I'm afraid of sharing The Station Agent with them because they'd probably laugh and be dicks about it. :|

I said it just above, but "Willow" all the way!

...I mean, seriously. I'd hit it.

And I'm someone who used to make midget jokes all the time. So yeah, I guess exposure to some of his movies could help towards easing this phobia. :)

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PETER DINKLAGE IS FUCKING HOT