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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2011-03-04 03:44 pm

[ SECRET POST #1522 ]


⌈ Secret Post #1522 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #217.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 - hit/ship/spiration ], [ 1 - personal attack ].
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(Anonymous) 2011-03-04 10:04 pm (UTC)(link)
Possible, but unlikely. If OP really lacked any kind of empathy I doubt they'd care enough to make secrets on f!s about how they're so ashamed of relating to a character on that level.

I strongly doubt that they've lost anyone they love who plays a major everyday role in their life. You can't be faulted for not grieving over someone you don't have an emotional connection with, and OP seems to think they're some kind of oddity for being normal.

You're right, I don't know how close they are to their grandparents, but my intent was more 'please don't judge your reaction to death based on your reaction to the death of some distance relative you only see at holidays'.

I thought I was a cold-hearted emotionless thing because death never seemed to effect me, but then my baby sister died a few years ago and I lost it. It took me months to stop grieving, stop feeling like there was a big hole in my chest whenever I thought of her. You can't say that you're emotionless based on victims of natural disasters the way OP seems to be.

[identity profile] kallanda-lee.livejournal.com 2011-03-04 10:09 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry for your baby sister, anon :( *hugs*

(Anonymous) 2011-03-04 10:10 pm (UTC)(link)
I think lacking empathy and not getting sad about death are separate things. I have plenty of empathy, but I don't get very sad about death.

And before you accuse me of not experiencing tragedy, fuck you. I'm not going to give examples because I don't feel like it, but you have no idea what has gone on in my life and what I have or have not experienced.

People deal with things differently. Just because you found out that certain deaths do effect you emotionally doesn't mean that everyone works that way. People deal with death in very very different ways, and who are you to judge that.

(Anonymous) 2011-03-04 10:23 pm (UTC)(link)
People deal with death differently, but everyone feels something when a death directly impacts their life, unless they've got a mental disorder. If you don't cry, whatever, but you claim to have lost people genuinely close to you and not even bat an eyelid, then I'm left to assume that you're simply very young and naive. (Or full of autism or something.)

(Anonymous) 2011-03-04 10:29 pm (UTC)(link)
>everyone feels something when a death directly impacts their life... unless they've got a mental disorder

Orly? Links to studies please, or you're pulling this out of your ass. Lack of empathy and emotional reactivity is a sign of several mental disorders, but that by itself is not sufficient to diagnose someone.

(Anonymous) 2011-03-05 12:17 am (UTC)(link)
Well, that's just like, your opinion, man.

(Anonymous) 2011-03-05 12:59 am (UTC)(link)
Burden of proof lies on the accuser, which is the anon saying that people who don't feel empathy when people die have a mental disorder.

[identity profile] obstinatrix.livejournal.com 2011-03-04 10:41 pm (UTC)(link)
You did not just say 'full of autism'.

(Anonymous) 2011-03-04 10:52 pm (UTC)(link)
Anon you replied to here,

I'm actually 30. Don't know if you consider that "very young" or not. And I'm not "full of autism" either. But hey, way to be offensive!

I don't know why I'm bothering with this, but here- I don't view death as a sad thing. I view it as just another part of Life. If it were possible I'd get rid of that part of Life, but it's not possible. So I just accept it.

I know not everyone views it the same way I do, and that's fine. Whatever. Like I said, people deal with death in different ways. But I don't think you need to go around accusing people have having mental disorders or being naive or saying that people haven't experienced real tragedies or whatever just because they're not dealing the same way you do.

(Anonymous) 2011-03-04 10:45 pm (UTC)(link)
You need empathy to make secrets now?

People can make secrets discussing things logically and without emotion too, you know. Just because most secrets are emotionally based doesn't mean it's some kind of requirement or something. You can logically feel weird for relating to a character. (And yes, I know this firsthand because I'm an Aspie, so sue me)

Also, OP mentioned that they didn't grieve for people close to them, in addition to the natural disasters thing.

[identity profile] dorknessrising.livejournal.com 2011-03-04 10:58 pm (UTC)(link)
And the anon's point is that if that's the case, then those people probably weren't as close as the OP thinks. Which I'm going to have to agree with.