[ SECRET POST #1558 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1558 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 12 pages, 291 secrets from Secret Submission Post #223.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 2 3 - too big ], [ 1 - repeat ], [ 1 - take it to comments ].
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Comments

[judo-creature.livejournal.com]

Okay, here's the thing. We all have problems. Some problems are bad, some problems are worse.

When I was going through my mum breaking both her legs, my cat dying, and the collapsing mental breakdown I had as a result of my previous abusive relationship, I did not judge my friends for being upset over school stress.

When I was depressed despite not having really anything going wrong in my life, my friend who was desperately trying to cope with a crushingly busy school life, four jobs, and abusive, controlling family did not judge me.

My friends who suffered serial rape do not look down on me for developing the same [or worse] issues as they had, when my sexual assault was "less severe" than theirs.

It doesn't matter if your issues are not of the same level. I've bitched about being too lazy to do homework while someone on my Flist was venting their sadness about losing a family member. Your feelings are not less valid than your friends' just because on some subjective scale your problems are not as horrible. I could go into a long, rambling psychological explanation, but this comment is long enough already, so I'll just say this: If someone judges you for being upset over something they don't perceive as a problem, they are a dick. That is their issue, and it is none of your fault. Try not to let the fact that you wouldn't win the Shitty Life Olympics interfere with your ability to talk about dumb television shows, okay?

[demishock.livejournal.com]

You covered this far better than I could have so I'm just going to say, "This. All of this."

[masked-creator.livejournal.com]

Very well said.

[baaing-tree.livejournal.com]

Yes! This! Thank you! You expressed my own sentiments beautifully.

Furthermore, speaking as someone who sometimes is the one with "all the problems," I get really sick of being treated like a broken baby duckling. After a while, if I have to have people focus on me and my stupid problems for one more second, I feel like I'm going to scream, and it's a wonderful relief to focus on someone else's problems for a change.

Because that's what friends do. They help each other! It's not always caretaker and broken puppy!