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fandomsecrets2011-04-09 03:42 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2011-04-09 03:42 pm
[ SECRET POST #1558 ]
⌈ Secret Post #1558 ⌋
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Secrets Left to Post: 12 pages, 291 secrets from Secret Submission Post #223.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 2 3 - too big ], [ 1 - repeat ], [ 1 - take it to comments ].
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(Anonymous) 2011-04-09 09:31 pm (UTC)(link)Best thing you can do is just be as honest as you can. If you had a shitty day, say so. People who are so emotionally unhealthy that they can no longer empathize with anyone else are probably not people you can have a friendship with. You can love them, you can care about them and support them, but you can't have a friendship in which you offer emotional support to someone who consumes it and gives nothing back. How "big" somebody's problems are shouldn't make it impossible to acknowledge any problem smaller than that. Did you ever see a crying child with a broken toy and say "fuck you, I had a car accident once"? No, (I hope) because you can still appreciate what it's like to have a stupid tiny little problem that hurts anyway. There you go.
So just do your best and if someone gets mad at you for feeling bad over a flunked exam while they're struggling with whatever, guess what? That's not someone you can really help by draining yourself dry emotionally. Wish them well and be kind, but seek actual friendship in people who are prepared to support you back.
And by the way, if you find out that those people with their big problems are still ready to love and support you with your little stupid ones, those are the people worth getting a little drained for.