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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2011-05-01 04:06 pm

[ SECRET POST #1580 ]

⌈ Secret Post #1580 ⌋


Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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Secrets Left to Post: 09 pages, 213 secrets from Secret Submission Post #226.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 2 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 - too big ], [ 0 - hit/ship/spiration ], [ 0 - omgiknowthem ], [ 0 - take it to comments ], [ 1 2 - repeats ]
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(Anonymous) 2011-05-02 02:44 pm (UTC)(link)
I think the OP feels like they've been living a lie because, generally, the asexual community is constantly fighting the notion that they're just 'broken' people who need to find a way to reach their sexuality. It's become a bone of contention, and many claim they will NEVER EVER change and they will always be asexual as a defense mechanism and as an effort to legitimize themselves. So when someone who has identified as asexual then does have sexual feelings, they can feel like they're a liar, or someone who is letting down the community and proving to the world they're just another one of THOSE asexuals who wasn't really asexual.

It's similar to someone who identifies as gay who then ends up falling into a heterosexual relationship, and who is worried they'll be seen as vindicating the idea that gay people just need to find the 'right' hetero to turn them, etc. You worry what you do is somehow reflecting on your community.

However, you have to eventually realize you can't live for your community, only for yourself.