[ SECRET POST #1580 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1580 ⌋


Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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Notes:

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Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 2 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 - too big ], [ 0 - hit/ship/spiration ], [ 0 - omgiknowthem ], [ 0 - take it to comments ], [ 1 2 - repeats ]
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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

This is a really good comment. I honestly bet that, in a lot of these 'my best friend left me' secrets, the person being left has never discussed it with the person at hand, who may not realize that's what it seems on the other side.

Nerdy fannish types like ourselves can sometimes fall prey to sort of obsessive BFF relationships, where the BFF is treated almost like a husband/wife, with that level of importance/devotion. Then, maybe the BFF decides to broaden their horizons, make more friends, etc, and then people like the OP are left feeling abandoned because they are no longer this person's only and most important friend. The thing to realize is, just because someone is getting MORE friends doesn't mean you can't be their friend too, and that they don't consider you theirs.

This happened to me and my best friend in high school, actually. We spent all our time together, watched anime obsessively together, and just generally were big dorky fans. But she decided she'd like a more balanced life, joined a sports team, made more friends. Instead of me being happy for her doing what she wanted, I became jealous and upset that she was spending less time being a nerdy shut-in with me. But when I think back, she never actually stopped talking to me, I basically stormed away from that friendship like a big fanbrat. She was incredibly confused - on her side, she was just trying to expand her horizons and make more friends, not devalue our friendship. For years I attested that she had 'abandoned' me, but then I realized that I was the one who walked away from that relationship. I grew up, became more secure in myself and realized that my friends can have other friends and it's ok. It doesn't make our friendship any less special, and it's selfish of me to expect any person to give of all of themselves like that.