[ SECRET POST #155 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #155 ⌋

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Next Secret Post: Tomorrow, Sunday, June 10th, 2007.
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Comments

[allsunday.livejournal.com]

Maybe I'm not making myself clear. Not wanting to have sex is fine. Many people choose to forgo it, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. But thinking that the act of sex as a general concept is dirty or wrong indicates that everything is not okay with you. Even an asexual should be comfortable with the idea that sex is an okay thing for people to do.

Does that make more sense?

[(Anonymous)]

I can see what you're saying, but I still think it's not necessarily true. We may have to simply agree to disagree on this

[(Anonymous)]

Even an asexual should be comfortable with the idea that sex is an okay thing for people to do.

Why?

[(Anonymous)]

Hello another anon who agrees :)

[ex-parle.livejournal.com]

Being asexual doesn't mean you think sex is gross, IMO anyways.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't believe anybody said it did :/

[ex-parle.livejournal.com]

:( I might've read that wrong, sorry, bb.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know about the other anon, but simply:

Why should 'even' an asexual be comfortable with the idea that sex is an okay?

[ex-parle.livejournal.com]

This asexual gender thing; it's a really tricky debate. :'(

Either way I would think that just because sex is a normal thing in life. Just as normal as everything else you and I do.

[(Anonymous)]

Spiders are normal. Some people think spiders are really disgusting. Doesnt have to be a phobia, some people just dont like them. Do people say that they need help?

[ex-parle.livejournal.com]

Not that I know of. :) But that's just because spiders are pretty damn fucking freaky things.

If sex is squicky for you or the OP or just about anyone else out there, then oh well. You have your own views and likes and dislikes, I and whoever else have our own.

[(Anonymous)]

But then again some people love spiders.

And that was the point I was making :) It doesn't mean there is something wrong with you, its just someone's opinion.

[ex-parle.livejournal.com]

♥~!! :)

Amen.

[dea-matrona.livejournal.com]

That's not really an appropreate analogy. Sex is a basic drive that humans have. Spiders are not. There is a big difference.

[allsunday.livejournal.com]

...Because sex is an okay thing for people to do. O_o

No, really. Just because you don't want to do it yourself doesn't make it any less a perfectly natural thing for someone else to get up to. If you're not okay with that, then you're not okay.

[(Anonymous)]

Ah, now I was reading this as 'should be comfortable with the idea', not as 'not wanting anyone to do it because it is disgusting and wrong'. Those are different things. Someone can be uncomfortable when you talk about it because its not something they understand or want to know about. Doesnt mean they're about to campaign for everyone to stop doing it. Thats taking it a little further than intended, I think.

[allsunday.livejournal.com]

Oh, I see the difference in what we're saying now.

Yes, you can certainly be uncomfortable with someone talking about it, or uncomfortable with reading about it, simply because as an asexual, that is not where your interests lay. I'm sure you would much rather talk about or read about something else. It's if sex in general squicks you - as in, "sex is dirty and wrong, period" - that something is wrong with you. Sex is perfectly natural, and no one should be under the impression that it's a bad thing, though you may choose not to engage in it.

Does that make more sense? I'm sorry if I wasn't as clear as I intended to be.

[(Anonymous)]

I think armpit hair is dirty and wrong, period. It's perfectly natural. It's still dirty and wrong. Gross.

[allsunday.livejournal.com]

Hope you never go to the beach anywhere in Europe.

[dea-matrona.livejournal.com]

Again, not an appropreate analogy. There is a difference between something being natural and something being one of the basic human drives.

[(Anonymous)]

"Sex is perfectly natural, and no one should be under the impression that it's a bad thing"

Not necessarily bad, just... wrong in the sense that 'augh, why would people want to do that?' Because people can do it if they want, but why should someone want to do something like that?

-> "sex is dirty and wrong, period"

I think this is an exaggeration of the original point, perhaps

[allsunday.livejournal.com]

Not necessarily bad, just... wrong in the sense that 'augh, why would people want to do that?' Because people can do it if they want, but why should someone want to do something like that?

Because it's fun?

I think this is an exaggeration of the original point, perhaps

I was trying to make the distinction obvious.

[anna-chronism.livejournal.com]

Not necessarily bad, just... wrong in the sense that 'augh, why would people want to do that?' Because people can do it if they want, but why should someone want to do something like that?

Kinda makes me think of smoking. Totally gross, but people do it because they like it anyway.

(I don't know if I actually had a point there.)

[jetaimerai.livejournal.com]

(Jumping into this late, sorry)

Oh, I dunno, I think people like having orgasms. That seems like a totally normal reason to want to have sex, no matter how messy it is. But maybe that's just me?