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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2011-05-04 07:46 pm

[ SECRET POST #1583 ]

⌈ Secret Post #1583 ⌋


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(Anonymous) 2011-05-05 04:13 am (UTC)(link)
DA

On the one hand, I agree that the previous anon was totally out of line in denying your experience and the growing up it pushed you through.

On the other hand... There IS a strong and pervasive stereotype that ONLY kids like pre-army!you - or people with the same assumed level of maturity - can be involved in fandom. Some of us have heard this said a bit too often, along with the derisive conclusion that we too will drop fandom when we finally properly grow up. So when someone says "I lived through very serious things, so I grew up, and now fandom doesn't interest me anymore", what we hear once again is "mature people don't do fandom". That may not be what you meant to say, but it still sounded awfully close to it.

Quite frankly, I don't see what the point was in mentioning your growing up at all. If you'd just said, "the army changed me and now I can't seem to go back to the ways I used to enjoy fandom", I don't think anyone would have had a problem with that. It's just life, really.

(Anonymous) 2011-05-05 04:25 am (UTC)(link)
OP is well aware of the stereotypes surrounding fandom. OP mentions growing up, because I DID. And along with that, or because of it, or something, my life perspective has shifted. And fandom has dropped down the ladder to a rung beneath all of the things that caused the growing up in the first place. I don't think I'm 'too mature' fandom, nor do I think it's something for kids. I think that I grew up, and realized that fandom is not for me anymore. Tastes change, perspective changes, and that's all part of growing up, too.

If it makes the more butthurt anons feel better, playing with LEGOS is still the most amazing thing, ever.

(Anonymous) 2011-05-05 04:43 am (UTC)(link)
Yeah, happened to me as well with a couple of passions I used to have. I just lost the love, somehow. Luckily, I have a personality that makes it easy for me to just slip away quietly and leave previous groups of interest-related friends behind without them almost noticing. I understand that it might be much more difficult for other people and even make them sad. Though I have to say: that's the usual way of fandom anyway. People come and go, all the time. So don't feel bad for changing your participation, or even for not participating any longer at all: it's the natural way of fandom life.