[ SECRET POST #1585 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1585 ⌋


Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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02.
[Shoujo Kakumei Utena]


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03.
[Pirates of the Caribbean]


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04.
[Zak McKracken and the Alien Mindbenders, Loom]


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05.
[Westminster Bagcarrier]


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07. [repeat]


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08.
[Eek! The Cat, Garfield]


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09.
[Gintama]


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10.
[Sassy Gay Friend]


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11.
[Doctor Who]


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12.
[florence and the machine]


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14.
[Inception]


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15.
[fakenews_fanfic]


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16.
[Ace Attorney]


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17.
[alex o'loughlin/the invisible]


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18.
[G.A.B.E.]


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20.
[The Black Cauldron]


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21.
[Pokemon]


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22.
[Girls Next Door by Pika-la-Cynique]


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23.
[Cuanta Vida]


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24.
[John Lennon]


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25.
[Tangled/The Enchanted Forest Chronicles]


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26.
[Inception]


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[ ----- SPOILERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]









28. [SPOILERS for Puella Magi Madoka Magica]



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29. [SPOILERS for Homestuck]



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30. [SPOILERS for Super]



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31. [repeat]


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[ ----- TRIGGERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]









32. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape]



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33. [TRIGGER WARNING for suicide]

[Doctor Who]


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34. [TRIGGER WARNING for self-harm]



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35. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape, abuse]








Notes:

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Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 2 3 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 2 - too big ], [ 0 - hit/ship/spiration ], [ 0 - repeats ].
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Comments

[fscom.livejournal.com]

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[(Anonymous)]

Good for you, OP. I'm not desi but I do come from a culture with similar ideas about marriage and whom one should marry and families and things, and I know what a big deal it is. You are courageous, and I hope that your family realises that your happiness is the important thing here. I wish you all good things. <3

[tamburlaine.livejournal.com]

You're good and you should feel good. :)

[ceruleansan.livejournal.com]

Good for you OP, I know how pressures can be. Though i haven't exactly been in your situation I am desi and I've seen it. Kudos for your courage and I hope everything goes smoothly. <3

[blessedwithsick.livejournal.com]

I'm white, but I lived in India for a while as a teenager, so I can understand how difficult it must've been for you to make that decision. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck, OP. <3

[(Anonymous)]

In before inevitable culture bashing and racism~

[(Anonymous)]

well aren't you a cheerful ray of sunshine

[(Anonymous)]

i haven't seen any so far

[whitelotustea.livejournal.com]

Keep your chin up and be true to yourself. As important as traditions and families can be, they should stick by you if they truly matter. Your heart should lead decisions of love, not theirs.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sorry that your betrothal didn't work out and hope that your family will not take it too badly; nevertheless, I think your decision took courage and commend you for being deeply attached to your relatives, yet willing to stand up for yourself. Hopefully you will receive the familial support necessary to resolve this internal conflict in a satisfactory manner.

[hikari87.livejournal.com]

You are amazing and brave and very smart to break it off before making a mistake that would've messed up two lives. I hope your family realizes how awesome you are soon and that you need to make your own decisions about these things. But if you ever decide to get into an arranged marriage because YOU want to, not because your family is pushing you, or anything else from your culture that you do because YOU want to and not by being forced, don't hide it, because you should never feel ashamed of something that is part of who you are. It's YOUR choice and that's what matters, even if others don't understand or approve. Whether choosing to follow tradition or go against it, what matters is that you make your own choice and stick to it =)

[stunt-muppet.livejournal.com]

Good on you, OP, for having the fortitude and courage to do what's right for you. I hope that things work out for the best for you.

(Also, Divia <3)

[heron-advocate.livejournal.com]

Good for you. And she is one of my favorite characters on tv right now.

[lemon-m.livejournal.com]

You are courageous, and definitely not alone. Many people have made difficult decisions that may hurt others they care about; there are so many people out there that I'm sure you'll find/already have friends to support you through this. I can only wish you the best.

<3

[(Anonymous)]

You know, I thought real feminism was always supposed to be more about giving women a choice, rather telling them they should be happy with feminist prescription A, B, or C. There's absolutely nothing wrong with following tradition if that's what you believe in, and it makes you happy. There's nothing wrong with believing in family values and doing what's best for your family, if that's what you believe in and it gives you fulfilment in life. "Individualism" isn't the only correct way to live your life.

More than anything anon, I'm proud of you for making a choice that you believe is right for you. And that you gave both options serious consideration and thought. There is no shame in accepting an arranged marriage. Had you found that it worked out for you, you would have been no worse of a feminist. I am proud that you gave it a fair chance, and that you did your best to make it work. And above all else, I'm proud that you had the courage to chose a path you believed in.

I think THAT makes you a real feminist. : )

Re: <3

[shukivengeance.livejournal.com]

Amazing comment. +1

Re: <3

[(Anonymous)]

♥♥♥♥
This is a fantastic comment. +1 to everything here.

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[specimen-47.livejournal.com]

perfectly said +1

[shukivengeance.livejournal.com]

You're brave OP and I really respect that. I hope your family were able to accept your decision and that you don't regret it.

[citrinesunset.livejournal.com]

It sounds like it was a hard decision, but that you ultimately did what you needed to. I hope everything works out well for you.

And I don't think the fact that your engagement was arranged makes you a bad feminist. In my opinion, feminism is ultimately about choice.

[wasabi-girl1.livejournal.com]

As an Indo-Canadian I understand and completely respect you for being courageous and strong enough to do what you did.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not from a culture where arranged marriages happen very often - but my culture *does* but a very high importance on family, and doing what is right for them. I hope the best for you anon. I know how hard it is to go against something your family wants, and I honestly hope you find happiness with it.

[(Anonymous)]

Anon, anon, anon, as a fellow Indian-Canadian, I wonder if you are me.

I too, am a liberal feminist. My family knows this. They know about my views, they accept them, and they have often times told me to follow my heart over the cultural norms that we have come to accept. I love them. I know that if I were ever in your situation, and I broke off the engagement, I know that they would be happy for me, because they would have known that my happiness mattered over everything else. Every parent has this at heart.

My advice is to give them time. I wonder if this was a completely arranged marriage in the sense that you did not have any say whatsoever, or whether your parents simply introduced the two of you and you two just mutually agreed that you should marry? The latter of the two ways is how everyone I know has ever done it. It's the way that I know I will end up getting married, so I suppose that gives me some leeway to break off an engagement if I ever were in such a situation, as it would be one that I fully accepted and went into.

That said and done, I'm rooting for you. Completely. You had a choice. You made it. Doing what you did is not a denial of our shared culture--it is a celebration of the change that we are always told to accept. Keep your head up, smile and never waver. Just remember that there are millions of us, just like you. Millions of desi women and fellow sisters who, despite whatever we may have chosen, are always there to accept you for your path in life.

[marvela.livejournal.com]

I'm late on commenting on this but I just saw this and couldn't NOT say anything.

I'm a 22 year-old Indian. Born, raised and living in India and also currently going through all the pressures of what it means to be that age and gender, of not wanting to upset my family and of not wanting to get married.

That said, I have enormous respect for what you tried to do and are currently doing. You tried your best to do what's best for everyone. and I know it's a part of our culture to put family foremost, but ultimately, I don't think it's any less Indian to do this - something that is better for everyone in the long run. Nor is it any less feminist to go forward with an arranged marriage. Just want to reiterate what everyone has said before me - there is no wrong way, just whatever way is right for you.

[marvela.livejournal.com]

Also... Divya <3