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fandomsecrets2011-05-06 08:08 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2011-05-06 08:08 pm
[ SECRET POST #1585 ]
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[Shoujo Kakumei Utena]
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[Pirates of the Caribbean]
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[Zak McKracken and the Alien Mindbenders, Loom]
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[Westminster Bagcarrier]
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07. [repeat]
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[Eek! The Cat, Garfield]
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[Gintama]
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[Sassy Gay Friend]
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[Doctor Who]
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[florence and the machine]
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[Inception]
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15.
[fakenews_fanfic]
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[Ace Attorney]
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[alex o'loughlin/the invisible]
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[G.A.B.E.]
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[The Black Cauldron]
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[Pokemon]
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[Girls Next Door by Pika-la-Cynique]
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[Cuanta Vida]
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[John Lennon]
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[Tangled/The Enchanted Forest Chronicles]
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[Inception]
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[ ----- SPOILERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
28. [SPOILERS for Puella Magi Madoka Magica]
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29. [SPOILERS for Homestuck]
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30. [SPOILERS for Super]
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31. [repeat]
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[ ----- TRIGGERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
32. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape]
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33. [TRIGGER WARNING for suicide]
[Doctor Who]
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34. [TRIGGER WARNING for self-harm]
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35. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape, abuse]
Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 00 secrets from Secret Submission Post #226.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 2 3 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 2 - too big ], [ 0 - hit/ship/spiration ], [ 0 - repeats ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments and concerns should go here.
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(Anonymous) 2011-05-09 07:07 am (UTC)(link)I too, am a liberal feminist. My family knows this. They know about my views, they accept them, and they have often times told me to follow my heart over the cultural norms that we have come to accept. I love them. I know that if I were ever in your situation, and I broke off the engagement, I know that they would be happy for me, because they would have known that my happiness mattered over everything else. Every parent has this at heart.
My advice is to give them time. I wonder if this was a completely arranged marriage in the sense that you did not have any say whatsoever, or whether your parents simply introduced the two of you and you two just mutually agreed that you should marry? The latter of the two ways is how everyone I know has ever done it. It's the way that I know I will end up getting married, so I suppose that gives me some leeway to break off an engagement if I ever were in such a situation, as it would be one that I fully accepted and went into.
That said and done, I'm rooting for you. Completely. You had a choice. You made it. Doing what you did is not a denial of our shared culture--it is a celebration of the change that we are always told to accept. Keep your head up, smile and never waver. Just remember that there are millions of us, just like you. Millions of desi women and fellow sisters who, despite whatever we may have chosen, are always there to accept you for your path in life.