Kinks are a very much debatable issue, though, so some can get defensive about them. For example, if I have a rape fantasy, I'm already feeling rather guilty for that, but I'd get miffed if someone acted as if I was getting off to ALL rape because of that one fantasy. Because- guess what?- it's a fantasy. I like it because it goes how I want it to, and I can control the situation with just a thought. If I hear about it happening to someone, I'm not thinking "Wow, that's hot" I'm thinking "Oh my god, are they okay?" Believe it or not, people can seperate reality and fiction rather well.
And while this following example doesn't really relate to kinks, I think people often forget that what someone likes to write, or likes to read, is not a reflection of what they like to see if real life. It's like looking at a horror movie and going screaming to the police about how the director/writer is going to go out and kill someone because they made a story about the same thing. I happen to love stories that have kids or young teenagers as the main characters (The Thief Lord, Legend of Zelda: The Wind Waker to name a few) and I have fun writing those stories, because there's something I find incredibly interesting about seeing people that young being able to take care of themselves and be just as competent- if not more- than adults. But when I hear of kids in real life having to do that, my heart breaks, because they shouldn't have to go through that.
I'm not completely disagreeing with you, a lot of the time in kink memes I see stuff and think, "Ick, why would I wanna read something about that?" which is why half the time I think to myself that stuff in kink memes is a joke, like someone is daring another to dare writing about something weird.
But outside of those memes, if you have a kink you want to write, I don't give a shit what it is as long as you tell an interesting story around it. The writer finds incest sexy? Whatever, if I stumble across it, I want something based around what the characters are going through and how they deal with the situation between them. Have a rape fantasy? Cool, but if you have it in a story, I want to read more about the aftermath and how the character deals with their life afterwards.
Also, WARN FOR THE SUBJECT MATTER! It's one thing to complain about a kink that squicks you out if you stumble across it, but if I find a story that has in big bolded font "this contains incest" I can't exactly complain to the author about it. That's usually the times I find YKINMK annoying, because if I'm squicked out that I came across something I would never read because I didn't know was there, it's not going to help my mood if someone says "Well some people like it." Cool, but I don't, and it would have been nice to know what I was getting into so I could either avoid the story, or just prepare myself for what was going to happen.
Yes, kinks are weird, and a lot of them are offensive to others, but taking a few minutes on Photoshop to say "I judge you" isn't going to make those people with the kinks to think, "Hey, you know what? Some people don't like this stuff, I'll guess I'll stop it now." People are more complicated than, "I like this one small thing, so clearly that dictates my entire personality and behaviour in the real world."
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And while this following example doesn't really relate to kinks, I think people often forget that what someone likes to write, or likes to read, is not a reflection of what they like to see if real life. It's like looking at a horror movie and going screaming to the police about how the director/writer is going to go out and kill someone because they made a story about the same thing. I happen to love stories that have kids or young teenagers as the main characters (The Thief Lord, Legend of Zelda: The Wind Waker to name a few) and I have fun writing those stories, because there's something I find incredibly interesting about seeing people that young being able to take care of themselves and be just as competent- if not more- than adults. But when I hear of kids in real life having to do that, my heart breaks, because they shouldn't have to go through that.
I'm not completely disagreeing with you, a lot of the time in kink memes I see stuff and think, "Ick, why would I wanna read something about that?" which is why half the time I think to myself that stuff in kink memes is a joke, like someone is daring another to dare writing about something weird.
But outside of those memes, if you have a kink you want to write, I don't give a shit what it is as long as you tell an interesting story around it. The writer finds incest sexy? Whatever, if I stumble across it, I want something based around what the characters are going through and how they deal with the situation between them. Have a rape fantasy? Cool, but if you have it in a story, I want to read more about the aftermath and how the character deals with their life afterwards.
Also, WARN FOR THE SUBJECT MATTER! It's one thing to complain about a kink that squicks you out if you stumble across it, but if I find a story that has in big bolded font "this contains incest" I can't exactly complain to the author about it. That's usually the times I find YKINMK annoying, because if I'm squicked out that I came across something I would never read because I didn't know was there, it's not going to help my mood if someone says "Well some people like it." Cool, but I don't, and it would have been nice to know what I was getting into so I could either avoid the story, or just prepare myself for what was going to happen.
Yes, kinks are weird, and a lot of them are offensive to others, but taking a few minutes on Photoshop to say "I judge you" isn't going to make those people with the kinks to think, "Hey, you know what? Some people don't like this stuff, I'll guess I'll stop it now." People are more complicated than, "I like this one small thing, so clearly that dictates my entire personality and behaviour in the real world."