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fandomsecrets2011-05-13 08:02 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2011-05-13 08:02 pm
[ SECRET POST #1592 ]
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[BSG]
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[Yu-Gi-Oh 5Ds]
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[Supernatural]
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[Glee]
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09. [repeat]
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[Once Upon A Time In Mexico]
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[Breakout Kings]
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[Supernatural]
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13.
[Ano Hi Mita Hana no Namae o Bokutachi wa Mada Shiranai]
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[Invasion America]
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[Zork Nemesis]
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[Waiting for Godot and Good Omens]
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[Withnail & I]
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[Gorillaz]
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[The Young Riders]
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[Pride & Prejudice]
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[Shantae: Risky's Revenge]
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[bbc sherlock (lestrade)]
[ ----- SPOILERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
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24. [SPOILERS for Supernatural]
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25. [SPOILERS for Ghost Trick]
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26. [SPOILERS for Harry Potter and the Forbidden Journey]
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27. [SPOILERS for Death Note]
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28. [SPOILERS for the Tudors]
29. [SPOILERS for Transformers: Dark of the Moon]
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30. [SPOILERS for Portal 2]
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31. [SPOILERS for Portal 2]
[ ----- TRIGGERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
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32. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape, abuse]
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33. [TRIGGER WARNING for abuse/sexual assault]
[Glee]
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34. [SPOILERS for Doctor Who]
[TRIGGER WARNING for parent death?]
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35. [TRIGGER WARNING for ]
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36. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape, racism, abuse, and pedophilia]
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37. [TRIGGER WARNING for self-harm]
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38. [TRIGGER WARNING for sexual abuse]
[Kuroshitsuji II]
Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #227.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 - too big ], [ 0 - repeats ]
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments and concerns should go here.
Re: 1/2
Not what I said, or what I was even implying. I know, I know, intent isn't magic and you can't read my implications, so here we go: what was implied here was that in my experience, and this is just my experience, people in my fandoms have been sensible enough to follow the necessary traditions. In the wider sampling I see from F!S, people also seem to be sensible enough to follow necessary traditions.
See, I find a flaw in this argument, right there. Namely, if people were following the necessary traditions, we probably wouldn't get secrets from people so frequently about when they don't. Maybe some of them are trolling or wank-baiting. But a fair number of them probably are not. And dismissing every single one as a troll is, to me, very lazy. As long as we dismiss every expressed grievance as trolling, we don't have to think about how to do things differently, or even better, to make fandom more fun and inclusive for everyone. And I think fandom should be more inclusive and fun for everyone, because I don't believe in having societal cross sections where people are made to feel unwelcome. (There are exceptions to this- highly specialized spaces geared towards providing sanctuary for women, PoC, trans people, intersexed people, genderqueer people, gays, lesbians, people with disabilities, etc., might be a little exclusive of people with more privilege. But these spaces aren't the same as general fandom, where the requirement to get in is "liking this particular bit of media.")
It is a little weird and interesting to me how very much people (like yourself) do end up caring about people's delicate personal feelings and willing to place faith in their proclaimed identities, but that's another tangent.
Here's where it's going to get a little real, and a little awful.
When I was in high school, one of my close friends was raped by her boyfriend. She told me. And I didn't believe her. I didn't want to believe her, because he was my friend, too, and I didn't want to believe he would do something like that.
Years later, I know now that it was true. That he did. And not just to her, to other women we knew.
Not believing her not only destroyed my friendship with her, but made her life a living hell for a long time. And I was part of that.
I don't ever want to be that person again. I don't ever want to hurt another person like that again.
So, when people tell me about their terrible experiences with trauma and/or oppression? I believe them. It costs me nothing, and might make life for a person in pain just the tiniest bit better.
'Cause the world can be a hard, painful, scary place. And it doesn't get better by writing off every complaint as made up.