fandomsecrets | [ SECRET POST #1592 ]

⌈ Secret Post #1592 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[BSG]

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[Yu-Gi-Oh 5Ds]

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[Supernatural]

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[Glee]

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[Once Upon A Time In Mexico]

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[Breakout Kings]

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[Supernatural]

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[Ano Hi Mita Hana no Namae o Bokutachi wa Mada Shiranai]

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[Invasion America]

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[Zork Nemesis]

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[Waiting for Godot and Good Omens]

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[Withnail & I]

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[Gorillaz]

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[The Young Riders]

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[Pride & Prejudice]

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[Shantae: Risky's Revenge]

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[bbc sherlock (lestrade)]

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24. [SPOILERS for Supernatural]

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25. [SPOILERS for Ghost Trick]

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26. [SPOILERS for Harry Potter and the Forbidden Journey]

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27. [SPOILERS for Death Note]

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28. [SPOILERS for the Tudors]

29. [SPOILERS for Transformers: Dark of the Moon]

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30. [SPOILERS for Portal 2]

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32. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape, abuse]

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33. [TRIGGER WARNING for abuse/sexual assault]

[Glee]

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34. [SPOILERS for Doctor Who]
[TRIGGER WARNING for parent death?]

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36. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape, racism, abuse, and pedophilia]

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37. [TRIGGER WARNING for self-harm]

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38. [TRIGGER WARNING for sexual abuse]

[Kuroshitsuji II]

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I've written before on f!s about how I spent most of my adolescence in crushing shame over one of my kinks, which is very homophobic in nature; it made me feel like a "bad queer" and a traitor to queer liberation. I'm not trying to compare modern homophobia to the Holocaust, but...hating myself for that kink did nothing to help me, did nothing to stop homophobia from existing, and, most importantly, did nothing to make the kink disappear. If anything, it only made the kink stronger, more obsessive, and harder to suppress.

That is a terrible experience, and again, I sympathize. I don't want you to hate yourself. I don't want anyone else to hate you, either. I also don't actually want you to try and stop finding kinky whatever you find kinky.

Honest. I don't.

I don't think depiction of your kink should be banned. I don't think depiction of anyone's kink should be banned.

But while you were getting angry about this:

I live in a world where a stranger's ability to get off on something that hurts me is more important to some people- people I've liked and trusted, for that matter- than my ability to live my life without feeling like people out there really hate people like me.

I was complaining about this:

But [when] quietly wishing behind my own locked door that this wouldn't occur unwarned for in places I hang out ('cause it does- oh, G-d, it does), being told that I'm shaming someone feels like being stabbed in the heart.

This does not excuse my phrasing being cruel or problematic, however, so I apologize for that. I honestly did not mean to make anyone feel ashamed for having a kink or enjoying/indulging it, or to imply that it's selfish to do any of the above. The behavior I'm hurt by and am trying to address is some people treating the expression of pain and the desire to avoid it, in and of itself, as shaming.

(And it totally erases the Jewish people with Nazi fetishes, the POC into race play, etc. "My way of dealing with my oppression is okay, but you are not allowed to deal with your oppression in a way I find upsetting.")

I speak for myself. I do not speak for everyone who spends their lives dealing with my *isms or other *isms. I again apologize if it seems like I was trying to.

And maybe it's easier to blame and shame someone for their kink than it is to admit the frightening reality that oppression and hate get deep into our consciousness without our permission, consent or control, and that has nothing to do with the kind of people we are, or the desire to hurt others, etc.... But just because it's the easier thing to do doesn't make it the right thing to do.

You know, there is actually not one part of this statement I disagree with? Not one.

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