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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2011-05-27 07:56 pm

[ SECRET POST #1606 ]

⌈ Secret Post #1606 ⌋


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[identity profile] tonko-ni.livejournal.com 2011-05-28 12:31 am (UTC)(link)
I see your point OP, but I swear to god, there's only so many times you can have some variation on "X wanted to be sure Y was TOTALLY OKAY WITH THIS IN EVERY WAY" every two seconds in a fic, or "'Are you sure?' 'Y-yes'" or whatever before it gets seriously repetitive.

Properly written, implied consent is just as clear and non-rape-y as explicit consent, and thank god for that.

The well-done versions of "are you sure/yes I'm sure" are lovely in their own right of course. Just--there's other ways to do it too.

[identity profile] lemon-m.livejournal.com 2011-05-28 12:48 am (UTC)(link)
Properly written, implied consent is just as clear and non-rape-y as explicit consent, and thank god for that.

This, so much. I think that anyone bypassing implied consent and stating it outright all the time is also passing on an opportunity to show part of the characters' relationship.

(Anonymous) 2011-05-28 12:56 am (UTC)(link)
This. Especially since, when it comes to the "Are you sure?"/"Yes" scenes, I'm always left with the impression that the one answering is some kind of blushing, virgin uke that needs to be pandered to. (Not always, granted, but SO OFTEN this is how it comes across.)

Generally, I preferred implied consent. The only exception is for fics where the relationship has been slow going and sex is a big step. Then it seems kind of sweet.

(Anonymous) 2011-05-28 05:18 am (UTC)(link)
This.

Maybe this is just me, but the majority of "are you sure you're ok with this"/"yes" fanfics come across as being written by someone who just came out of a sex-ed class who's teacher put heavy emphasis on consent. "Make sure you have your partner's consent. If you're unsure, ask them. Please ask them."