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fandomsecrets2011-06-10 07:51 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2011-06-10 07:51 pm
[ SECRET POST #1620 ]
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
01.
[Ano Hi Mita Hana no Namae wo Bokutachi wa Mada Shiranai]
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02.
[Hetalia]
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03.
[Magical Girl Lyrical Nanoha]
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04.
[Michael Silas/Asiel Hardison, Lady Gaga's dancers]
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05.
[Tiger & Bunny]
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06.
[Evangelion]
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07.
[Zero Punctuation]
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08.
[The Catherine Tate Show]
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09.
[Grimgrimoire]
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10.
[wonderful days, guyver, cowboy bebop, texhnolyze, togainu no chi, black lagoon, samurai champloo, aishiteruze baby, tenjo tenge]
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11.
[X-Men: First Class]
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12.
[Tales of the Abyss]
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13.
[Human Target]
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14.
[A Song of Ice and Fire]
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15.
[Masterchef Australia]
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16.
[Sucker Punch]
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17.
[Mystique]
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18.
[Workaholics]
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19.
[Mark Reads]
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20.
[Jamie Campbell Bower ]
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21.
[Hey Arnold!]
[ ----- SPOILERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
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22. [SPOILERS for Homestuck]
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23. [SPOILERS for Gintama]
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24. [SPOILERS for Kamen Rider Kabuto]
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25. [SPOILERS for Loveless]
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26. [SPOILERS for Doctor Who]
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27. [SPOILERS for Mockingjay]
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28. [SPOILERS for Kung Fu Panda 2]
[ ----- TRIGGERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
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29. [TRIGGER WARNING for non-con]
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30. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape]
[Game of Thrones]
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31. [TRIGGER WARNING for eating disorders]
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32. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape]
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33. [TRIGGER WARNING for transphobia?]
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34. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape]
[SPN]
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35. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape, pedophilia]
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36. [TRIGGER WARNING for eating disorders]
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37. [TRIGGER WARNING for self-injury, suicide]
[Manic Street Preachers]
Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #231.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 2 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 - too big ], [ 0 - repeats ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments and concerns should go here.
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I can already tell you're going to get all sorts of shit for this secret, but stay strong. If your friend is still dealing with her ED, it sounds like you've exhausted yourself trying to be her emotional caretaker, so the best thing you can do at this point is find other people to help her deal--professionals, her family, her friends. You can't help her if you're exhausted and resentful, and really, honestly, it isn't your responsibility alone. Your responsibility is to be a friend to her, and friendship doesn't mean running yourself ragged to no effect. If she's in recovery, try to keep the friendship maintained, even if you need to establish boundaries on how much support you can give her, even if there's resentment built up. Resentment is natural and not something you need to feel guilty for as long as you don't give in to it--she was in a crap situation, you were in a crap situation that she contributed to through no fault of her own. Frustration and resentment are kind of inevitable there. Just acknowledge them to yourself and don't take them out on her.
I was in a similar situation this time last year--sole emotional lifeline for a friend with clinical depression, barely managing to stay functional with my own depression, lonely as hell and having to absorb it every time she lashed out at me. It got ugly and unhealthy, it damaged our friendship, but one year later we are both doing better (after seeking outside support) and both still friends.
no subject
(Anonymous) 2011-06-11 04:34 pm (UTC)(link)OP please read this. You CANNOT be the sole support of your friend and also remain healthy yourself as well.