Use your words. You're not in Kindergarten anymore, you can't get what you want by crying and pointing.
I don't care if yelling dissuades people if their abhorrent behavior. Sometimes, abhorrent behavior deserves being yelled at, and the victim is allowed the satisfaction of yelling, full stop. Your FOCUS being on the spiritual GROWTH of the person in the WRONG is gross. I don't care if they're a horrible member of KKK. I don't care if they've really truly misspoke. I'm not their fucking mother, I'm the person they were just harmful and offensive to, and I don't CARE to teach them a lesson and make sure it sticks. I'd never be able to care about anything ELSE ever again if I had to become the personal fucking mentor to every person who thought "CHING CHONG CHING CHONG XD" was the height of humor.
You do realize that in the time people spend writing up paragraphs and essays about how my motives are caused by me being brainwashed by society into seeing the white heterosexual male being lifted onto a pedestal and me being okay with this is just a function of growing up in this society (which, again, these people have no clue who I am or where I'm from, they don't know what society I'm part of)
And those essays? If they're not about YOU then you don't have to apply them to YOU. Do you think there's anywhere that it does apply? If yes, then the essay is valid. If you think they're wrong, either ~ignore them~ or create a discussion, but don't do it like the entire essay was a personal attack on ~you~ if they were just using the general ~you~ goddamn.
I find it really hilarious that you use this phrasing "We will fight back" - which doesn't exactly involve the polite, calm/OR IGNORING recourse you were saying should be applied to confronting ignorant, hurtful people. But "fighting back tooth and nail" is appropriate when it involves you, and someone calling you bigoted, because that is the real offense that needs to be addressed.
Also, I have been dogpiled online multiple times, and no, it wasn't pleasant. Two of the times made me flounce from two different communities, in retrospect I realize I was wrong in once case, but it was absolutely harmless in the other. So no, I don't think being "dogpiled" by SJers is pleasant, or always in the right. But the amount of BAWING I see over this is ridiculous. Absolutely fucking ridiculous. I haven't seen this much childish sobbing since working at a daycare. "THEY SAID I HAD A BOOGER BRAIN BAWW" Do you have a booger brain? No? Okay then.
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Use your words. You're not in Kindergarten anymore, you can't get what you want by crying and pointing.
I don't care if yelling dissuades people if their abhorrent behavior. Sometimes, abhorrent behavior deserves being yelled at, and the victim is allowed the satisfaction of yelling, full stop. Your FOCUS being on the spiritual GROWTH of the person in the WRONG is gross. I don't care if they're a horrible member of KKK. I don't care if they've really truly misspoke. I'm not their fucking mother, I'm the person they were just harmful and offensive to, and I don't CARE to teach them a lesson and make sure it sticks. I'd never be able to care about anything ELSE ever again if I had to become the personal fucking mentor to every person who thought "CHING CHONG CHING CHONG XD" was the height of humor.
You do realize that in the time people spend writing up paragraphs and essays about how my motives are caused by me being brainwashed by society into seeing the white heterosexual male being lifted onto a pedestal and me being okay with this is just a function of growing up in this society (which, again, these people have no clue who I am or where I'm from, they don't know what society I'm part of)
And those essays? If they're not about YOU then you don't have to apply them to YOU. Do you think there's anywhere that it does apply? If yes, then the essay is valid. If you think they're wrong, either ~ignore them~ or create a discussion, but don't do it like the entire essay was a personal attack on ~you~ if they were just using the general ~you~ goddamn.
I find it really hilarious that you use this phrasing "We will fight back" - which doesn't exactly involve the polite, calm/OR IGNORING recourse you were saying should be applied to confronting ignorant, hurtful people. But "fighting back tooth and nail" is appropriate when it involves you, and someone calling you bigoted, because that is the real offense that needs to be addressed.
Also, I have been dogpiled online multiple times, and no, it wasn't pleasant. Two of the times made me flounce from two different communities, in retrospect I realize I was wrong in once case, but it was absolutely harmless in the other. So no, I don't think being "dogpiled" by SJers is pleasant, or always in the right. But the amount of BAWING I see over this is ridiculous. Absolutely fucking ridiculous. I haven't seen this much childish sobbing since working at a daycare. "THEY SAID I HAD A BOOGER BRAIN BAWW" Do you have a booger brain? No? Okay then.