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[ SECRET POST #1644 ]

⌈ Secret Post #1644 ⌋

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No, but my options as you put them boil down to 1) shut up and be happy with what you have or 2) don't fall in love with a canon unless you know ahead of time that the fandom will be full of plenty of like-minded fans to interact with.

I'm not saying I want all the fandom to think the way I do. I just want to have fun in fandom. That's the point, isn't it? I'm not telling the slash people I want them to go away or I think they're gross (I don't!) but this particular fandom doesn't seem to have a place for a het fan. If I were a slash fan, would you tell me "tough luck, find a new fandom?" Or would you have anything more useful to say?

In a nutshell: yes. As an example, I ship some femmeslash pairings, and it's no surprise that I've had to keep my love to myself a lot and move on to other fandoms where there's a chance of getting an audience. And again, the rare ships, I hardly ever find anyone to talk to about those. It's kinda tough, but we deal like the big girls/boys that we are.

Wow, thank you, I was hoping for a perspective with potential insight and you weren't condescending at all.

Glad to be of service.

But honestly? I'm being as frank as I can possibly be with you. I don't know what you expected but the truth is there is hardly anything else to say in response to: "Why don't more people like what I like?" Of course you wouldn't like it, but it's not just you.

Because that's totally what the person was saying.

Like going to someone who's left out an telling them "It's just the truth honey, you can't have it your way" makes you so cool...?

If you don't think there's any other way to look at/feel about this then... okay.

...It's shipping, I doubt it'll emotionally scar a person if they don't have as much people to talk about one orientation of pairings over the other with, which has more fans.

Honestly, telling someone to simply ignore it and continue to dabble in things they like rather than telling other people to ship a ship they ship seems like a sound option especially when it comes to fandom.

I don't understand why it needs to be brought to extremes? What does "feeling left out" have to do with "emotional scarring". Is it only okay to feel something, anything when it's at an extreme?

Honestly, it you think there's only one way to feel/talk about that than, okay. Telling someone to simply stop wasting their time, and invalidating and condescending upon them which does leave legitimate reasons for being more upset isn't sound.

/"emotionally scarred angry fangirl ohnoes"

Because fandom isn't the end-all to be happy in regards to a series, book, video game, film, comic, what-have-you, but that's just me. I could go on how there are some ships I ship, but many others don't, but what it boils down to is that you cannot make other people ship things you do if they don't want it and it's better off 'feeling left out' in my opinion, than to step on a few toes just to make statement about wishing there were less fans of something you don't like.

So... extremes again. Nothing that isn't the "be-all-to-end-all" is worth feeling anything about.

"Making others ship the same things I do" lawl, what. You're assuming a hell of a lot about me or what I said simply because I defended someone from condescending/stupidly invalidating speech when it's someone right to feel left out when they are, however small the reason is. It doesn't mean they're "emotionally scarred". Quit the patronizing bull, really. Because that's pretty annoying

Unless you're doing in on purpose, then good job.

I really don't understand how you're getting that I'm taking this to the extremes when all I'm saying in a nutshell is stop being a drama queen over trivial things such as shipping, and I'm not talking about you, I'm tying this into the secret posted itself. But never mind that because I have offended you since I can't seem to bring myself to comfort anyone who's annoyed about shipping, when I am defending the other anon about being a little thicker skinned in regards to fandom.

Feelings, honestly!

e_e

Except you're talking to me, not to the other person. And you're insinuating I'm "emotionally scarred" which is offensive. Sorry for being offended at offensive and exaggerated things said about "my kind".

I'll repeat this again: There are less "dram queen" ways to tell someone to have a thicker skin. You guys are the ones making a big deal out of someone expressing a feeling, and then acting like they are. That's how I'm seeing it.

Oh, honestly indeed.

And you brought it on yourself that it's on you when I am just pointing out something the anon said which you seem to find incomprehensive, so it was fair game. Didn't say you were 'emotionally scarred', that's just how I talk. You're offended when you don't have to be.

At this point, I am getting the feeling that you just like pointing fingers so I'll make you happy by just leaving you to your devices and just not reply. In fact, you can have the final say. Now I'm being condescending.

Whooa, the hell is your problem, I do not know. Maybe you should listen to yourself. You totally implied the extremes. And you don't get to decide whether I have the right to be offended or not.

At this point I'm getting the feeling you like to butt in and assume things about people trying to rile them up and play mature.

I don't care about the final say, because it's clear you're only caring about "winning". I care about standing up for myself. =P But it's cool, I'm done with you myself and won't be replying after this either.

Aww, it's all about you. It's always all about ceruleansan.

-blink- Is there a problem with having a conversation regarding me when my "issues" are brought up, dear anon?

Yup, that's what I meant when I said that there's hardly anything else I could have told the other person. And yes, that is also essentially what they were saying. That's what it means when you like something few other people like, you wonder why can't more people share your interest. Which is natural, but doesn't change that fact that the best advice anyone can give you is: try something else somewhere else. What, you think I'm saying these things because I think that'll make me everyone's best friend?

No, I think you you're saying these things because you don't care about the experiences of the people you say those things to, and it seems you're making a bigger deal out of it than they are. If someone says "I feel ____" there are less condescending ways to respond.

You're free to respond however, I'm free to say I don't like it and think it could go better. And then you're free to disagree. And I'm free to not like that aspect and stay away from it... The cycle continues. p:

Okay.

DA, but my response would be exactly the same and it would be this: DEAL WITH IT!
It sucks when other people are not interested in the things you like, but how is whining about the slash fans going to change that? Your problem has absolutely nothing to do with slash. You can try and find some like-minded fans, but if you don't find any, it's not because there's no place for het in the fandom due to an overabundance of slash. It's because not a lot of het fans are drawn to this particular fandom. So, deal with it or move on. That's really all you can do.

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