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Re: Bad, bad boys

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The key word in that sentence is object.

I don't think there's anything wrong with feeling protective of the person you love, or wanting a significant other who will worry about you and want to protect you right back.

But there also has to be respect for personal freedom. If my significant other makes a decision that I don't like or that I worry puts him in a bad position, I will talk to him, I will argue with him, I might even scream and shout at him if it's something I'm really worried about. But at the end of the day, it's his choice, and I'm not going to trick, manipulate, or physically coerce him into doing what I want.

Characters like Edward from Twilight or Damon from the Vampire Diaries tend to take away the choices of their love interests "for there own good". And many times discussions of these actions romanticizes those types of actions. Those girls were doing stupid things! That makes it totally OK to infantilize her and treat her like a child who's too stupid to understand her actions might have consequences!