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YOU don't see one being more correct than the other, but the culture we both function within does. There is already too much institutionalized slut-shaming (and the misogyny that always goes hand-in-hand with it), and defining your preference as an orientation that feeds into this only contributes to it.

Additionally, humans in general are hardwired to be monogamous (although obviously there are exceptions to this rule). That makes being a "demi" the default. You don't need a special label that that.

Well, I'd disagree that the default doesn't need a special label -- I'm really glad that words like heterosexual, cisgender, and dyadic exist, because I like being able to identify people with a positive term rather than a negative (not queer, not trans, or not intersex). The problem with "demisexual" is it already has a label, and that's just plain "sexual".

Dyadic??

As the comment you replied to states, it means people who are not born intersexed. It's useful because it avoids the implication that intersex is "other" or weird.

I just never heard it, and couldn't quickly find it on Google - so thanks for the explanation.

I agree that the culture needs to shift. I agree that institutionalized sult-shaming needs to go perish in a conflageration, and I agree that the misogyny that goes along with it should put on a pair of cement shoes and go visit the Titanic.

I do not believe that demisexuality is as much of a preference as other things that have been mentioned though. Maybe it should be called demiromantic instead of demisexual, or it shoud have a different label. I. Don't. Know.

I do know this, I will disagree with you that it is slut-shaming, just as hard and often as I will agree with you that slut-shaming is a bad thing.

Also? When I googled "humans monogamy", most of the articles I found are saying that monogomy is a social trait, not a trait 'hardwired' into our brains. If this is true, then "demi" being the default is wuite possibly not true.

nayrt

I really hope you aren't implying that monogamy is required for emotionally-connected sex. Because it's not, and the cultural meme that having multiple sexual partners means that you aren't emotionally and romantically invested in those sexual relationships is really harmful to those of us who have healthy, loving sexual relationships with more than one person.

If that is the way it came across, I apologize- that was not my intention. <3

More like monogamous adjacent. Serial monogamists, very commonly. Humans are sort of in between having multiple partners at a time and being with just one other at a time. Some are happy being monogamous, others happily poly, many others are monogamous with serious stirrings on the side.

I read something about human male genitalia arrangement working out to mean we're built for 2 to 3 partners in our lifetime on average. Considering that's an average, that sounds about right.

I'm not even going to touch the plethora of labels flying around this thread, but I would like to ask how you arrived at the conclusion that humans are 'hardwired' to be monogamous. You can also build a powerful argument for the opposite case.

You can build a powerful argument that we were planted here by space gardeners, but it doesn't make it feasible.

Comparing apples to orangutans.

I like both apples and orangutans. Therefore, they are identical.

The Librarian would like a word. He wants you to stop trying to bite him.

I thought the current assumption by anthropologists was serial monogamy. But that's merely the most observed pattern. Humans seem to be quite flexible in that respect.

It is. 2-5 lifetime partners, as evidenced by a whole pile of evidence that I don't have access to right now. There is a great deal of individual flexibility, but the current prevailing theory is that serial monogamy is the default.

Well there you have it then.

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