[ SECRET POST #1726 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1726 ⌋


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Secrets like this confuse the hell out of me. Is it really THAT big a deal to not be into something that your friends are? Or, from another perspective, do your friends really care THAT much that you're not into this one thing that they are? I mean, for example, a lot of my friends are very into Bones. I'm very not. I can't get myself interested in any major aspect of the show, and I've tried. The solution, bizarre as it may sound, is that I don't hang out with them when Bones is on the agenda, and they don't watch it when I am there. I mean, do they know that you don't like it? It just seems like the sort of thing that shouldn't be a big deal, let alone a secret.

tl;dr: It's okay to not like things.

[fictionalbf.livejournal.com]

It gets to be a big deal when your friends turn 'watching x thing' into 'watching x thing WITH MY FRIENDS'. I have a group of friends who love The Vampire Diaries and refuse to miss an episode. One of them suggested that watching the new episodes every week be a 'friend thing' that we all do together. I have no investment in TVD, and would rather get some sleep (it airs really late where I live). I've told my friends this. However, they still invite me every week, and insist I should come watch it.

It's not so much about the show to them as it is about spending time together. I do spend time with them outside of TVD nights, and I just don't want to spend an hour in a darkened room watching a show I don't particularly like, and not being able to actually talk to the people I'm supposed to be hanging out with, because everyone else in the room does actually care about what's going on on the screen. But they feel that I'm rejecting spending time with them as friends when I refuse a TVD night, rather than rejecting the show. I totally agree that it's okay not to like things, but some people find it hard to seperate x thing and themselves, so it looks like you don't like y person if you don't like x thing, and that's why it becomes such a big deal.

...if that made any sense and wasn't just a rambly csb, that is.

Same anon

[(Anonymous)]

Oh, I totally get what you're saying. I probably should have been more clear- if her friends are doing what yours are, then they should probably chill the hell out about it and just accept that the OP doesn't want in on HIMYM night- and that the OP's opinion on HIMYM has no reflection on their opinion on their friends. It just kind of sounded in the secret (which I could totally be reading too much into) kind of like there was a communication issue on both sides- if the OP doesn't want to watch the show, they should tell their friends that, and if the friends take offense to it, maybe they need to re-examine their priorities and remember that, as we have both said, it really is okay to not like things.

Re: Same anon

[fictionalbf.livejournal.com]

Oh, okay, that makes sense. Sorry, I thought you were confused as to how anyone could invest that much in their friends liking the same things they do, and I wanted to clarify that. It looks like we're actually on the same page, though. :)

It does kind of sound like OP hasn't come out and told their friends they don't like HIMYM yet, which is too bad. OP, if you're reading this, definitely do tell them, and maybe suggest something else you guys could do together instead of watching HIMYM? If there's another option presented, it should be clear to your friends that you're really interested in spending time with them, just not interested in the show. And you might find something new and fun to do together.