[ SECRET POST #1775 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1775 ⌋


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I'm married. I've never told my spouse I write dirty fanfic. So what? I know he's aware of the fact that I sometimes read it, but I've never talked about it directly. I'm aware that he looks at porn but I've never talked about it or asked for specifics, either what he watches or to see it myself. Having personal things isn't unhealthy secret-keeping. It's having personal interests and things and respecting someone's privacy. Some people consider their porn(/fanfic) private, some don't. If you do, that's not weird.

If my husband asked me outright if I wrote slash, I'd say yes, he might or might not ask which pairings (we already talk about who has chemistry in a show or movie we've both seen) and that would be the end of the discussion. People in healthy marriages trust each other, and it isn't and should not be a big deal if you don't proactively share every personal thing you do in your alone time for your own purposes. If you're not telling him because you're afraid he'll judge you or tell you to stop that's a problem, if you're not telling him simply because it's something you do for yourself, that's no big deal.

[(Anonymous)]

If you're not telling him because you're afraid he'll judge you or tell you to stop that's a problem, if you're not telling him simply because it's something you do for yourself, that's no big deal.

And that pretty much sums it. Because it is a trust issue, either way. You could say 'trust' means not having to tell him. But you could also say 'trust' means trusting that he's not going to judge or really care, that he'll be supportive about her having an interest/hobby that's a bit dirty but harmless.

Without actually knowing OP or their relationship, it's impossible to say which is the actual issue.