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⌈ Secret Post #1839 ⌋


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Comments

[imati-lau.livejournal.com]

As someone who has recently lived a similar situation with a IRL friend, let me tell you some advice. You can try talk to your friend, and you tell him/her why you think they should seek help. If he/she doesn't want to see it and keeps doing all those abusive stuff to you... well, then you can be at peace knowing you tried to help, but then it's time to leave.

That's exactly what I did, and when he didn't respond I left that abusive relationship, and my now ex-friend kept displaying hate and resentment to everyone around him, until he lost pretty much everything (family, friends and now job). I don't have any regrets though. My emotional health is quite valuable to be with someone that abusive.

Some people just don't want to be helped. (Boy, did I learned that the hard way)

[(Anonymous)]

This. Once you just find it within yourself to let go of an abusive friendship, it's like an immediate upsurge in your quality of life. It's even worth whatever knee-jerk outrage you might experience from said friend, 'cause eventually, they'll quiet down and leave.

[imati-lau.livejournal.com]

Exactly. My life got a little better after I stoped being his friend, but it was really impresive how my life and everyone around him greatly improved the moment he was fired. It was as if he was this giant black hole of negative emotions and when he left, everyone felt so much relief...

And you're right. We really don't care what he plans to do to get his vengeance, this peace is so much worth it.

[dorknessrising.livejournal.com]

+1000. Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. It's not worth trying to salvage a "friendship" with someone that toxic.

[imati-lau.livejournal.com]

Yeah. One may be tempted to try to salvage something that was once important to you, but the toxicity always ends up poisoning your own life. If I had know this earlier, I wouldn't have suffered as much as I did.

Hehe, that t-shirt comment was full of win. XD

[(Anonymous)]

OP Here. I have been giving this idea some serious thought. My friend is unpredictable. Sometimes, she's completely fine, and other days she thinks that everything anyone says to her is cause for an argument.

[imati-lau.livejournal.com]

That is exactly what you should tell her. Maybe she hasn't even realize it, or maybe she has but doesn't know how to stop. At any rate, she should know how her behavior is affecting others. If you feel like you are walking on eggshells all the time with her, then maybe things habe gotten a little too far. Good luck!

[hiyami.livejournal.com]

+1