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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2012-01-23 07:46 pm

[ SECRET POST #1847 ]

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(Anonymous) 2012-01-24 06:34 am (UTC)(link)
>shouldn't hate yourself over this

OP here. Thanks for the comment, but I'm fairly certain I've been conditioned to hate myself for not being strong enough to.... I don't know. I've been taught that reacting with panic, sadness, or tears is unacceptable. Even in situations that are perfectly legitimate.

I've watched both of my parents almost get killed, and I'm still not allowed to grieve for what could have happened. I don't know what to do.

[identity profile] rabidsamfan.livejournal.com 2012-01-24 02:26 pm (UTC)(link)
If you have any access to it all, therapy. Get someone who is paid to listen while you talk and go through boxes of kleenex. Someone it is okay to cry in front of. Because it really helps to say things. It's hard, I won't say it isn't, but it helps. (I mean, if you're identifying with John, recognize that he knew he had to go and talk to someone who would prod the words out of him.)

(Anonymous) 2012-01-24 03:10 pm (UTC)(link)
OP here.

Thank you for being so concerned, and for your suggestions. And you're right, that's another thing that flew over my head-- I am indeed identifying with John. And he went to therapy, and it was okay for him to do so.

Once it's okay for me to talk about it, I might do this. Hopefully by then it will be an option.

Thank you for listening.