[ SECRET POST #1849 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1849 ⌋


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Comments

[maverickz3r0]

Okay. Fuck you, though.

When someone gets diagnosed with any type of disorder later in life, it's typically a relief in the 'oh thank god there's a label for it' way. So of course we tell people about it. Because sometimes, it can really be this revelation about yourself--that's why I have those problems, that's why I do this, now I can be treated for them.

For people who were diagnosed as children or early teenagers, it's just part of who they are. I doubt anyone diagnosed young is going to treat it as a terrible secret or anything.

Now, if you're talking about the type of people who shove it in your face and demand attention/buttpats/special treatment for it, then god yes, fuck them. However, the wording of your secret is saying more 'if they mention it at all' which is...no.

P.S. Fuck you LJ, lemme pick between icoooooons.

[(Anonymous)]

Ok, this may be straying pretty far off-topic from the original secret, but this line really struck me:

"When someone gets diagnosed with any type of disorder later in life, it's typically a relief in the 'oh thank god there's a label for it' way."

I understand that many people feel this way, and that it can also be an enormous relief to have a name put to a problem you've always had. But I think it's also scary how much faith some people put in a diagnosis, especially as there isn't much scientific evidence for many mental illnesses - and no reliable way to diagnose them.

I have had five different diagnoses in the ten years since I first saw a mental health professional. If I had believed Professional No. #1, and gone through with his advised treatment, it would have affected my entire life in a very negative way.

Ugh, I don't even really know what I'm getting at, because it's complicated, and everyone has their own biases and experiences, but I do find it worrying how many people will just blindly trust that whatever the first medical professional that comes along has to tell them. Because once you've got a diagnosis, it changes your perception of yourself, too, and in a way, it can sometimes become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

[maverickz3r0]

I don't advocate trusting anyone or anything blindly, particularly in the often-fuzzy mental health area. I'm sorry you got jerked around so much by the field--it's a shitty position to be in, and it sounds frustrating. However, I am sure of my own diagnosis through research of my own as well, and because of the fact I have two living blood relatives on the same spectrum, one of whom is my mother.

The correct diagnosis does give relief though. All I was really saying.

[(Anonymous)]

Honestly, a lot of these diagnoses are just a collection of personality traits. I tend not to take certain conditions too seriously because of this. I honestly feel like the label actually gives people a reason to rely on their illness as a crutch, but that's just my two-cents. Not everything in psychology is a science, unfortunately.

[(Anonymous)]

"the label actually gives people a reason to rely on their illness as a crutch,"

and that's the type of thinking that gets people into trouble. A label or diagnosis should not be an excuse, and people who use it as such are wrong. A diagnosis is there to help you cope and understand yourself. Example: I have ADD. I don't use this as an excuse to jump all over the room or have shitty papers or whatever. I use it as a tool to then go and research coping mechanisms and things that will specifically help a brain with ADD.

And I'm not saying that everyone does this, but the whole using it as an excuse thing just perpetuates horrible stereotypes and ideas, and then we get secrets like this.

[(Anonymous)]

The real problem is parents of Autistic kids and Ass-pies using the diagnosis as a "get out of parenting free" card. Yeah, they now don't have to control their kid, everyone else just has to tolerate the little shit's bad behaviour because the brat is now special. If a kid gets a diagnosis of autism then it means parents have to work three or four times as hard teaching social norms, reinforcing social norms, looking at places and asking is it safe/fair (to the child and others) to take their kid there (and if it is a diagnosis of aspergers, it is a sign they need to go to a different clinician and get a real diagnosis instead of a fictional one). It is a life limiting diagnosis, not a responsibility abdicating one. Sadly very, very, very, very few parents actually want that responsibility. They are just there for the diagnosis so they can be relieved of the title of bad parent.

[(Anonymous)]

I know it was a relief when I was given my labeled of what I am suffering from. I was misdiagnose for years as ADD (it always felt wrong but pressure from parents and me being 12 sucked) and was given medication that gave me a psychotic episode (I wish I was lying).

It wasn't until I was an adult when I got re-diagnosed with things that were more fitting (depression spectrum, APD, language disability, memory problems, etc).

I understand a bit how the OP feels but from two classmates who are diagnose with Aspergers, a part of their therapy is admitting they have it and ask those who don't have it call them if they don't read the social cues of a situation. And you may say bs, but two classes, two different students stood up and told everyone that they have and to please help them if don't get a cue right.

And since I have a language disability myself, I do mention it to others because I am always worried if I make a mistake or if confused someone. I want to make sure they understand clearly what I am trying to communicate and that I am open to re-explain myself.