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fandomsecrets2012-02-17 05:31 pm
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[ SECRET POST #1872 ]
⌈ Secret Post #1872 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[Hobo with a Shotgun]
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[That Mitchell and Webb Look]
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[The Secret Circle]
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[How I Met Your Mother]
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[Les Miserables]
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[Code Geass]
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[Star Trek]
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[Pound Puppies]
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[NCIS]
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[Mass Effect 3]
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[Glee]
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[Brave New World]
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[Star Trek DS9]
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[Brazil]
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[Rob Liefeld/Ioana Spangenberg]
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[Suzumiya Haruhi]
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[A:tLA]
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[Video Games Awesome!, Skyward Sword Long Haul]
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[Toy Story]
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[Being Human]
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[G.I. Joe: The Rise of Cobra]
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[My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic]
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[How I Met Your Mother]
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[Hetalia]
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[ ----- SPOILERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
26. [SPOILERS for Mass Effect 3]
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[ ----- TRIGGERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]
27. [TRIGGER WARNING for sexual abuse]
[Revolutionary Girl Utena]
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28. [TRIGGER WARNING for suicide]
[SPOILERS for The Hunger Games]
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29. [TRIGGER WARNING for non-con and sex between minors]
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30. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape]
[Sherlock]
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31. [TRIGGER WARNING for shotacon]
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[linked for (censored) porny stuff]
Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #267.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 2 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 - hit/ship/spiration ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
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(Anonymous) 2012-02-18 02:39 pm (UTC)(link)Have you not heard of intersectionality? When someone tells a straight woman that she "just needs to find the right guy", that's misogyny. When someone tells a gay woman that, it's misogyny and homophobia. When someone tells an asexual woman that, it's misogyny and anti-asexual sentiment.
Also, what's your point? That because straight and gay women have similar experiences, asexual women should shut up about how their asexuality intersects with their other oppressions and how it affects them? What the hell.
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(Anonymous) 2012-02-18 03:17 pm (UTC)(link)When someone tells an asexual woman that, it's misogyny and anti-asexual sentiment.
No, it isn't. It's straight-up misogyny. There is no such thing as "anti-asexuality sentiment" because unless you make a pest of yourself about it, nobody fucking cares who you don't want to fuck. And if you do make a pest of yourself, people aren't against your asexuality, they're against you being a histrionic ass.
That because straight and gay women have similar experiences, asexual women should shut up about how their asexuality intersects with their other oppressions and how it affects them?
Yes, that is the point. You need to stop appropriating the hell out of the LGBT experience if you don't belong to it. You aren't discriminated against or oppressed solely because you don't want to get it on. Get the fuck over it.
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(Anonymous) 2012-02-18 07:06 pm (UTC)(link)This is a perfect example right here.
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(Anonymous) 2012-02-18 07:11 pm (UTC)(link)no subject
Asexuality intersects with nothing because there is no privileged "sexual" class, nor is there an inherently oppressed "asexual" class. A woman gets told she "just needs to find the right guy" because of misogyny, and often at the same time because of homophobia, whether she's straight or not. A woman always needs to find the right man, because a woman is not whole without one. When an asexual woman says she's not interested in sex, the assumption is that she's a "frigid b*tch," because she's a woman who's not making herself sexually available to men. That is misogyny. Or she'd be assumed to be a lesbian, and equally-detested class of people. If an asexual man said he was not interested in sex, he'd be assumed to be gay as well, or accused of being a "p*ssy" because men are assumed to always be interested in sex and casual hookups. Not because there's a unique oppression against asexual men, but because patriarchal norms sometimes backfire on men, and they're expected to be highly sexual and emotionally dead. Women, the opposite. (Of course, women get a double whammy here because the ones without interest in sex are "frigid" and the ones with are "sl*ts" so...)
Outside of tumblr and livejournal, most of the world doesn't know asexuals exist, bottom line. There can be no active oppression against them if they are at best, not even heard of, and at worst, ignored. You are pressured with all the same pressures that affect "sexuals," the exact expectations for sex and relationships, the exact same sexism, the exact same gender binary, the exact same sex assumptions. You cannot claim oppression when your people are going through the exact same things other people are.
Frankly, it's insulting that you believe "sexual" people have these issues any easier because they're sometimes sexually attracted to people. The pressure to be sexual, and conversely, the pressure to be chaste at the same time is a dichotomy that oppresses us both. Hell, some people are deemed "too sexual," because they're more sexually active, should we create a class for them? Or should we assume that their discrimination is merely a result of our society's views on sex and relationships, on gender and gender norms, rather than a unique subset of "oppression?"
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