[ SECRET POST #1879 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1879 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[The Dain Curse by Dashiell Hammett]


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03.
[Matilda]


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04.
[Person of Interest]


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05.
[Boston Public]


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06.
[Rideback]


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07.
[The Office (UK)/Harry Potter]


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08.
[Inspector Lynley Mysteries]


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09.
[Prince of Cats]


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10. [personal attack]


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11.
[Misfits]


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12.
[Smash]


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13.
[Hetalia]


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14.
[Shadow of the Colossus]


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15.
[Dragon Age]


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16.
[Zack Snyder]


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17.
[Kill Bill]


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18.
[askandroidwheatley/Wheatley (Portal 2)]


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19. [repeat]


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20.
[TGWTG, Todd in the Shadows]


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21.
[Sailor Moon]


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22.
[Hyvät ja huonot uutiset]


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23.
[MLP: FiM]


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24.
[Once Upon a Time]


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25.
[Katekyo Hitman Reborn!]


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26.
[How I Met Your Mother]


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27.
[Castle]


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28.
[Amanda Palmer]


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29.
[Katawa Shoujo]


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30.
[Homestuck]


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31.
[Evangelion]


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[ ----- SPOILERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]











32. [SPOILERS for Salt and TGWTDT]



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33. [SPOILERS for Katawa Shoujo]



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[ ----- TRIGGERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]











34. [TRIGGER WARNING for incest]



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35. [TRIGGER WARNING for incest]



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36. [TRIGGER WARNING for child abuse]

[DC comics/DCAU]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #268.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Comments

[aiffe.livejournal.com]

Asexual and kinky as fuck over here. I've gotten off to things I'm not even going to talk about in public. In fact, I had a hard time figuring out I was asexual, because I was just so damn kinky I just assumed I'd be into partnered sex too. Turned out, not so much. What I've come to realize is that a lot of asexuals are turned on by ideas, which is a very different thing from being turned on by people. (It is, of course, absolutely possible to have both.) Ace sexual fantasies tend to be situational (e.g. this thing happens, but it's not about the person/people there), or completely in the realm of the fantastic (impossible to perform in real life), and not generally focused on, oh, this guy/girl/ambiguously gendered person, they're so sexy, mmmm naked sexy person. Though some might be--I think the distinction is still that the person having the fantasy prefers it as fantasy and the desires don't cross over into real life.

Asexual means not being attracted to real people, so TV characters, celebrities you'll never meet, cartoons, and things that get you off in your head don't actually count. They can be an indicator of sexual orientation in some people, but an active fantasy life is not proof of non-asexuality.

You may well not be asexual, and may totally have a blast doing incest roleplay with a partner. (I don't judge, consenting adults can roleplay anything they damn please.) Or you may find that the incest idea is hot, but having an actual person there adds nothing, and may even be detrimental. One way to find out, of course, is to hook up with someone. But it might be worth self-examining, too. Do you sincerely want another person to act out your fantasy with, or is the fantasy itself all you really wanted all along?

[(Anonymous)]

Wow, I-- Suddenly everything makes more sense. I've spent most of my youth/young adult life drifting between whether I'm asexual or a repressed queer with a low libido. (I had the kind of upbringing where sex was never mentioned because it would have been too awkward, but I've always been pretty mature and I don't think I've ever been that innocent about sex.)

I have some kind of a sex drive, but I've never been physically attracted to a real person (or a fictional one, for that matter). I do find many people visually pleasing and I can think someone is attractive and sexy but that doesn't mean I'd be sexually attracted to them myself. I fantasize, but my fantasies never have anything to do with myself and very rarely anyone particular. As you said, I'm turned on by ideas and situations and atmosphere. I've had sex and I don't mind having it to please my partner, though I prefer to be the one to do the touching. I just don't really get the urge. I really love reading about sex, and I think there's something wonderful and sensual about beautiful writing, and though I rarely get physically off on it, it is pleasing to me on a certain sensual level.

My biggest problem with identifying myself as anything has always been that I'm mostly drawn to asexuality because I've always found it so hard to relate the way most people are attracted to others on a purely physical level. But on the other hand, I do still have a sex drive (even if I don't desire to have sex with other people) and I do have fantasies, just not the 'regular' kind. But what you said kind of solves this tangle a little bit. Thank you so much.