[ SECRET POST #1891 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1891 ⌋


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Implying this is an assault (or even that it feels like one) is kind of unsettling, since a person who is being assaulted or harassed in real life can't, you know, log out.

[hoggle2807.livejournal.com]

This was my point, exactly. Thank you for saying it better.

[(Anonymous)]

Some people really get into the rp character and things that happen while playing can have the emotions of a real encounter. Not saying it's the same, but something to keep in mind.

[hoggle2807.livejournal.com]

That just seems so very unhealthy to me, and I know I'm not comfortable enabling it by pretending RP assault and actual assault are in any way similar.

[insanenoodlyguy.livejournal.com]

Some people need to learn not to be babies.

A real encounter can't be logged off.

This can. You can literally end it with one hand and two steps: move mouse, click mouse. Was it making you uncomfortalbe? Problem solved!

Comparing that to an actual fucking assualt is fucking insulting and dismissal and mockery seem appropriate.

This isn't even something like a legit threat: The Op's partner wasn't all "I'm going to hunt you down in RL and do this" this was fucking roleplay. THAT. THEY. KEPT. RESPONDING. TO.

So no. You don't get to pull that "things on the internet evoke real feelings" card. I'm pretty sure there has never been a real life assault case where the victim could make it stop whenever they wanted in a matter of seconds and completely remove themselves from the situation safely. When that becomes the norm, then you can talk.

[(Anonymous)]

The effect is more akin to harassment, IMO. No physical harm done but there is an effect. Just because you can close the browser, or put headphones on and walk away doesn't make the creation of an uncomfortable environment okay.

[(Anonymous)]

And sometimes it's not as simple as just logging off. I can't speak for OP, but - as the other anon said, this is closer to harassment than anything else...and speaking from experience? There are times when, even if you log off, they'll still find ways to get to you. The one I had? It was through friends. I started ignoring her, and she went after everyone in the rp that I had contact with...and it wouldn't do any good to report her to the mod, seeing they were close friends.

So no. You don't get to pull the 'You have no right to feelings!' card.

[insanenoodlyguy.livejournal.com]

A person getting stalked online or offline is an entirely different scenario and it is horrible that that happened to you.

But OP described a roleplay partner they roleplayed scenes repeatedly with, and KEPT roleplaying.

Which does not sound like your situation at all.

[(Anonymous)]

seriously

this is role playing guys. usually if you're in a scene, you've agreed to be in the scene. it's not like your arm is being twisted into it. you both have to agree to the scene being done in the first place.

second of all, there's NOTHING at all that says you HAVE to finish a scene you are uncomfortable in.

christ.

it's role play. in text. it's not like there's no way to escape the situation.

say fucking no to a scene if the player's character (or even the player) makes you that uncomfortable.

this whole playing the victim thing OVER A GODDAMNED ROLE PLAY is seriously fucked up.

yeah, the player needs to grow a fucking spine.