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[White Collar]

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I FEEL YOU, OP.

I just turned 20 a few months ago and I already feel like I'm headed for the coffin. I feel like my golden years are over (despite them not being all that golden to begin with) and look forward with utter dread. Most people wait until they're, like, 30 to start lying about their age. I've been detracting years since I turned 19. >.<"

I know it's stupid to feel this way, but I can't quite put it to rest. I'm going to be 21 next year and I dread it something fierce.

Stupid Rei is stupid.

Edited 2012-03-09 01:08 (UTC)

I feel bad for when you turn 50. you'll be a fucking wreck.

or, you know, you could realize that your thinking really is moronic and try to change it.

I just said I realized it was stupid, didn't I? Oh, if only we could just control our fears and emotions with a single demand! I'd then be free of my severe social/general anxiety and I'd stop crushing on my neighbor who's so very much older than me.

Alas, I'm only human. Do let me know what planet you come from, though, and let me in on the secret of your ability to control your emotions. I'm dying to know.

wow, you sound like a really pleasant person.

blah, ignore the anon trolls- I'm pretty sure everyone feels this way about age at some point.

Hey, I'm 24 and my life pretty much sucked all through my teens, and now I'm in my 20's things are way better and more fun and free than they EVER were, or could have been, when I was younger. Something you don't realize when you're in those "golden" teen years is that a lot of the time you simply don't have the life experience, perspective, or sheer ability to really get the most from life, just because you haven't gone out and had a steady job and lived on your own and all that stuff that sounds (and sometimes is) super boring but that actually does a whole lot to mature you. And the more you learn and grow the better of a person you can become! Not like we stop learning after high school, after all. The older you get and the more life experience you rack up, the better things can get, because your world and your mind are expanding.

Just curious, but what were you expecting to happen that was so awesome before you turned 20? I'm not trying to be condescending - I had my age breakdown at 25 - just honestly wondering why so young?

I expected to be about half-way done with college by the time I was 20, not *just* starting (if all goes well i'll be starting this autumn). I expected to have set plans for the future, or at least a general idea of the direction I'd like to go in. I expected to have "found myself" at least a little. I know that's such a cliche, but I literally feel like I'm a stranger in my own body. =/

I think the problem is that I compare myself too much to my friends/peers/siblings, most of whom are nearly done with school and working (some of them are already starting jobs aimed toward their desired careers). Most of them have at least some idea of what they'd like to do/where they're going, and the ones that don't just don't seem to care much. Many of them have even started *families*, and while I have no intention of doing that any time soon, it feels like I'm so... behind.

I'm honestly freaking out about this all the time. When I think of the future all I see is, well, nothing. I can't even imagine it. And the times when I can envision something, well... it doesn't look good.

The older I get the older it feels like my time is running out, that it will be too late for me to do, well, anything, 'cause I'll be old (physically, mentally, etc. And while I know that logically being in your 20s isn't anywhere near being old, I still feel like it is). TBH, I feel more like I'm in my 50s than anything.

Ugh, I know, it's so stupid. I don't know why I'm like this. I just need to get over myself or something. Ugh.

some of the awesomest, most active people I know are in their 50s and above

they still take classes/attend workshops in their chosen fields, do research, write books; hike, dance, do sports; find new hobbies, rediscover old ones

they have stronger senses of themselves because, well... they lived through their 20s and after

and few of their best stories are from their teen years, really

around 21-ish I was in a similar mindset for a good chunk of time, just like shiiiiiit what am I doing everyone I know is making mad cash and humping supermodels all the time, I have extrapolated this understanding somehow mostly from livejournal and facebook posts I guess and my mom was just like "fake it 'till you make it... I'm still faking it sometimes, but so is everyone"

the other piece of succinct advice I remember trying to keep in mind back then:

Do you know Daphne Selfe? She's an 83 year old model. Yep, a model. And she's gorgeous. What I want to tell you with this is: Society wants to tell you that one day, there's an age where you're "too old". First it starts with kids being "too old" for the playground. Then they're "too old" for animated movies. Subsequently, as we grow up, society tries to take the fun away from us by giving us rules and standards of how it wants to see us and how we should behave.

I've realized that it's all about control. In fact, there is nothing we should be afraid of. Age is literally just a number and I've realized that people who feel young, look young. It's never too late to follow your dreams and realize what you want to do or where you want to go.

I'm 26 and I don't know it yet myself. Sure, it's scary sometimes. But I think if we just free ourselves from this cage society has put around us, we can be happy and at peace with this whole age thing.

~~Holy wall of text, I'm so sorry XD~~

Edited 2012-03-09 05:44 (UTC)

Aww Sweetie, I know this is nothing you'll believe because you're really so young and young people never believe older people when they try to tell them about life, but I'm going to do it anyway.

I'm 41 years old. I had the life plan, too. Done with school by age X, married by age Y, kids by age Z, etc. Then you know what? Life happened. Things didn't go according to the plan. What I thought I wanted when I was 20-21 changed completely by the time I was 30. I finished my BA at 22, worked shit jobs until 26. Went back to school. MA at 28. Realized I hated my field. Back to school at 30. PhD finally done at 38 (btw, I was the youngest in my doctoral cohort). Got my first real job, doing something I finally enjoy - in a different field than I started out and doing something I never thought I'd ever want to do - 2 years ago. Along the way, I did get married (but a little later than age Y), but also discovered that I never wanted to have kids.

My point is, live your life and let things develop as they will. Don't be so hung up on what you think you should be doing or what everyone else is doing. Do what you want to do right now. Make decisions that work for you right now. There's always time to adjust your course. Also, I guarantee that those friends who seem to have it all together? They'll be adjusting their courses eventually too. Everyone does. That's just life.

+1 Advice from anon.

@amethyst: I was worried about the same things last year and I'm currently 25 years old. I came to realize that it doesn't matter what everyone else is doing. Trust me, everyone goes through life at different paces. It isn't a race. I'm currently working on my Bachelor's and most of the students around me are 19-20 years old. Seriously, you're going to fit right in.

You really need to work this shit out soon, or you're going to be miserable for the next 60 years or so. Hopefully, age and experience will bring perspective. If not, you're fucked.

I had a friend who used to whine about turning 15. "I'm soooooo old, OMG" lol

Seriously, things just get better from 20 +

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