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fandomsecrets2012-03-11 03:28 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2012-03-11 03:28 pm
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Notes:
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And if I saw someone saying that Catelyn was the worst, I'd probably say "LOL NOPE." And if they wanted to get more specific about why, I would engage them in a discussion. Catelyn gets enough hate everywhere. I'm used to it.
Also this secret wasn't just saying "I like this character/ship". It was saying that the secret maker fantasizes about Sansa losing her virginity to Sandor. I could just say nothing. But firstly, I find people's obsession with Sansa's virginity to be super creepy, and secondly, I think it's an incredibly problematic relationship. I could just say nothing to keep the peace. I concede that I could have voiced my distaste in a less over the top manner. But I didn't. And the fact that I didn't doesn't warrant you calling me a jerkass and saying I lack basic human decency. Like, REALLY. Come on. Stop making me out to be this terrible person when you were the one who turned it into a personal attack.
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(Anonymous) 2012-03-12 02:47 am (UTC)(link)I suppose it says a lot about this fandom that we're so used to character bashing that people don't think it's a problem anymore. I have seen lots of Catelyn hate, but I still wish people would stop doing it. I imagine fans of other characters, even characters I hate, feel the same.
Then say that. Say that you find people's obsession with Sansa's virginity creepy. Say that you think it's a problematic relationship and why. Or don't say anything if you don't feel like having an actual conversation about the pairing. But just saying "this pairing sucks" is a completely pointless comment. Yes, I overreacted by calling you a jerkass, but I am so very sick of this behavior in this fandom. And to be fair, I called you that when you reacted to my initial comment that ship bashing is not okay with a snarky "yeah I totally feel good about myself" rather than with an actual reply to what I said.
And I think we've both made our point clear and don't need to drag this out even further. I just really wish you'd stop being defensive and consider that maybe, next time you feel like writing a comment like that, you shouldn't. And I'll call people out on their behavior without calling them a jerkass next time.