[ SECRET POST #186 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #186 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Early-early 'cause I've got stuff to do later. ):

Secrets Left to Post: 07 pages, 164 secrets from Secret Submission Post #027.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 2 ] broken links, [ 1 ] not!secrets, [ 1 ] not!fandom, [ 1 ] personal attack.
Next Secret Post: Tomorrow, Wednesday, July 11th, 2007.
Current Secret Submission Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[pretentioustfu.livejournal.com]

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19. I agree. Even if you're still into fannish things in your old age, you shouldn't let it take over your life. If you're 60 and worrying more about being flamed for writing slash than how to keep your hip joints in good condition, it's gonna suck to be you.

Actually, my parents are in their late 60s. Health worries and church and how good the old days were is pretty much all they ever talk about. I'd say it sucks to be absorbed in being "old" and constantly conscious of it a lot more than it would suck to still be writing slash at 60. ~_^

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, but when you're sixty, what's better to talk about, that stupid fanwar you got in forty years ago over a pairing you didn't like or about that time you hiked across the Appalachian trail and went camping in that park where you could see nearly every start in the sky?

There's nothing wrong with fandom being part of someone's life, but when you're sixty, it shouldn't be the best thing you have to talk about.

There's too big and wonderful a world out there for that.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, but when you're sixty, what's better to talk about, that stupid fanwar you got in forty years ago over a pairing you didn't like or about that time you hiked across the Appalachian trail and went camping in that park where you could see nearly every star in the sky?

There's nothing wrong with fandom being part of someone's life, but when you're sixty, it shouldn't be the best thing you have to talk about.

There's too big and wonderful a world out there for that.

[pretentioustfu.livejournal.com]

Yes, I get it, but what's to say you can't have both?

[(Anonymous)]

Do you have a reading comprehension problem?

I said: There's nothing wrong with fandom being part of someone's life, but when you're sixty, it shouldn't be the best thing you have to talk about.

Obviously, I think you can have both. I just think more focus should be put on living your own life rather than living vicariously through fictional characters.

And keep in mind I'm not the secret-maker, I'm just being anonymous because people are touchy as hell about the subject.

I would have presented it as more of a "Fandom is great but some of you need to go out and lay on the hammock under the leaves for a while, once in a while" rather than "neener neener neener I'm so much better, get a life."

[pretentioustfu.livejournal.com]

There was no need to insult me. I was agreeing with that part of your post. Chill out.

I'm only trying to say that most of us *do* live our own lives as well as do fandom stuff, and at least for me, most fandom stuff isn't about "living vicariously through the characters." I don't live through my favorite characters, and I wouldn't want to do half of the stuff they do. It's no different than any other form of writing, IMO.

Also, I'm annoyed at the idea that "getting a real life" almost invariably means having kids and a mortgage and the "American dream." My idea of a real life is to finish college, then spend my years traveling and writing, since I loathe the idea of "settling down." This isn't aimed at you, or at the secret maker, but at the idea there's a one-size-fits-all life for everyone.

[(Anonymous)]

Sorry I got tetchy, but it just really annoys me when it seems like someone didn't actually read your post. Just like if you say something out loud and they don't listen.

I'm only trying to say that most of us *do* live our own lives as well as do fandom stuff, and at least for me, most fandom stuff isn't about "living vicariously through the characters." I don't live through my favorite characters, and I wouldn't want to do half of the stuff they do. It's no different than any other form of writing, IMO.

I completely agree with that, as I RP and write crossovers and nerd it up all over. But I do think some people that admit they only do fandom stuff should just...go outside sometimes. Even if they don't want to talk to anybody.

I had this one friend in college who I RPed with, and she would bring her laptop to when all the nerds met up and had these big dinners in the cafe once a week, and these were really cool nerdy people, too, with the same interests, and they were funny. She would RP on her laptop and IM instead of talking the whole time.

One time I realized that I started doing that too when I went over a friend I RP with. We started IMing each other from across the room to be funny, and then realized it wasn't funny, so now it's an unwritten rule that every time we get together (along with our other friend and her boyfriend) we go to the beach and boardwalk and sit out there at night when the stars are out. Or mini-golf. Or we go ghost-hunting in rundown places we find on weirdnj.com.

I still RP with the guy. It's just not...you know, ridiculous now.

I think that's all the Secret-maker was trying to say. Don't be the person on your laptop if you manage to get a room full of fun nerds.

For god's sake, tabletop then, at least.

Also, I'm annoyed at the idea that "getting a real life" almost invariably means having kids and a mortgage and the "American dream." My idea of a real life is to finish college, then spend my years traveling and writing, since I loathe the idea of "settling down."

For me, a real life will be going around the country with my bff in a trailer, working from town to town and writing our next awesome book, until maybe we settle down somewhere near each other, and meet every afternoon for coffee and tea in between traveling every so often with our significant others (if we find them) and traveling with each other as old biddies or whatever.

[(Anonymous)]

And sorry about the double post. Laggy comp.

[pretentioustfu.livejournal.com]

Is OK. Oh, and if you want to see, I elaborated on my view later on. Mostly, I'm concerned with the OMG you can't have both a real life and a fannish life. Yes, you can.

[pretentioustfu.livejournal.com]

It's on page 4 by the way :D