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fandomsecrets2012-03-30 06:36 pm
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Oh, I completely understand where Catelyn is coming from. It's a major flaw but a humanizing one, and the thing that makes it such a sad side note to the Stark family dynamics is that you feel so bad for them both. Catelyn is the closest thing to a maternal figure in Jon's world, and she hates him. Whereas she knows on some level that blaming the boy is wrong, but she's dealing with her own pain and it's the only way she can really cope with it. I really just want to hug Jon - especially little-boy!Jon we never see, because it must have been worse for him then - and give Cat someone to talk to about it, vent all of the pain.
I do blame Ned more than Cat - whatever the truth of Jon's parentage (and yes, I prefer to believe R+L=J myself) he's the one who caused all this. He was right to raise Jon himself, whether Jon is his son or nephew, but there had to be something he could do besides basically say to Cat "He's staying, you can't know anything about him." Though I will give Cat this; while she was cold to Jon I can't recall any evidence that she was outright cruel save for that one scene in Bran's bedchamber, and... Well, grief excuses a lot. Other women might have done worse than she did. (Cersei, for example.)
Makes you wonder, if Jon is Lyanna's son by Rhaegar, say Ned had told Catelyn. I wonder how the family dynamics would have been then. (Sorry to ramble on like this; I'm new to the fandom and I don't know anyone, so no ASOIAF talking for me.)
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Yeah, GRRM has clarified that Cat's behavior at Bran's bedside was an anomaly. Mostly she just kept her distance and was cold to him. The thing is, Cat isn't offended by Jon's existence so much as his presence at Winterfell. The standard practice in Westeros was for bastards to be raised elsewhere, but the fact that Ned insists on raising Jon at Winterfell and refuses to discuss his mother is what really fuels Cat's bitterness. It's really disrespectful to Cat for Ned to be raising Jon at Winterfell.
But I think that if Ned had told Cat the truth of the situation, she'd had been ok with it. As long as she knew the truth of Jon's parentage, I think she'd be ok with other people believing he was Ned's bastard because I really think it was Ned's caginess over the whole thing that really bothered her. I mean if Ned cares enough to buck Westerosi custom and raise Jon among his trueborn children and also refuses to talk about Jon's mother, I can see why Cat might resent what Jon represents in her marriage (a lingering reminder of a woman that apparently Ned loved a LOT).
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Oh, yeah, by the culture of the Westerosi it's very disrespectful to have Jon there. At the same time, what could Ned have done with Jon? His brother is on the Wall, which is no place for a boy. If Jon really is his bastard he could have left him with Ashara or Wylla or whoever his mother was, but I suspect that if Jon really is Ned's son, his mother is dead and that's why Ned has him in the first place. It's kind of a catch-22 for him, though he could have handled said catch-22 with a little more consideration rather than just being concerned about honor and duty.
I think even if Jon really was Ned's bastard, it might be easier for Catelyn to accept if I'm right about the mother being dead. Then there literally wouldn't be much else Ned could do with his son besides maybe foster him out - but I don't think infants can be fostered, normally. She'd still have trouble, but it's Ned's caginess, as you say, which made things such a mess. And if Jon's his nephew by Lyanna... Why didn't he tell her? She's not about to go blabbing, especially over something like that. And Jon... It's not in the book, but in the show it kills me when Ned promises to tell Jon about his mother when they meet next, but we know they never will.
It's odd, how a man normally so honest as Ned keeps this huge secret, and seems either unaware of the tensions or not willing to do much to try and fix them. I seriously just want to shake the man, really.
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I think the reason Ned didn't tell is due to his weird sense of honor. Lyanna's final words to him were to make him promise (presumably to keep Jon safe?), and Ned clearly thought the way to do that was to make sure that NO ONE knew that Jon was a Targaryen (seeing as how Rhaegar's other children were killed). So the Top Secret-ness of it all was probably an attempt on Ned's part to protect Jon from Robert and his Targaryen vendetta (I mean look at how willing Robert was to send assassins after Dany). But like, COME ON NED. AT SOME POINT IN YOUR MARRIAGE, YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN ABLE TO TRUST CATELYN WITH THAT INFORMATION.
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Ned is definitely trying to keep something secret - I can't see him refusing to name Jon's mother just because he doesn't want to talk about it, after all. If R+L does not equal J, there is another good reason. But R+L=J is the most likely. And in that case, as you are saying, there is no reason not to tell Cat eventually. She's not about to tell Robert - in fact, with the truth out I could see her wanting to help her husband keep their nephew safe. Note the 'their' - if Jon is Ned's nephew, it's much easier for Cat to be his aunt than his stepmother. But she's a Tully; they're all about family and I think once she knew the story, she'd be on board with the plan.
Ned's silence is definitely due to his honor because he wants to keep his word. But it kinda backfired - since Catelyn has only reasons to resent Jon, she insists he is sent from Winterfell when Ned leaves, putting him in considerable danger on the Wall. Presumably, Ned didn't take him south in case someone noticed either traits of Lyanna or Rhaegar in Jon, because then there'd be trouble. (That's the only explanation I can think of, anyway.)
Damn it, now I want a Ned wises up and tells Cat fic.
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I do think it's interesting that it's not Cat who suggests Jon goes to the wall. But she does latch onto the idea once Maeter Luwin informs them that Jon had already said he wanted to join the Night's Watch. The interesting thing though is that she's not heartless about it. She thinks that it would be good because then Jon could be like a son to Benjen. So although she herself might not want to be a parental figure for Jon, she seems to want to encourage that kind of relationship with other people.
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I don't see Cat as someone who could suggest a fourteen-year-old go to the Wall, of all places. But yes, she does see the good part of it for Jon as well as look at it as an out - since she is insisting that Jon not stay at Winterfell. To her it's a win/win for everyone, really.
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While I still think it would be better all around for the Stark family to have known the truth of Jon's parentage, whatever that may be, I can see where Ned (and you two) are coming from.