[ SECRET POST #1951 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1951 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 05 pages, 102 secrets from Secret Submission Post #279.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Comments

[rabidsamfan.livejournal.com]

We don't know. A first encounter is what the cartoon depicts. I certainly have heard the "treat me like a regular person" advice given (fortunately by someone who was quite happy to continue the interaction), though. And I felt like the first few comments were kind of harsh (and I'm killing time, waiting for Sherlock to start) so I got entangled in the comment thread.

As for someone acting creepy -- getting away from fandom here, because the people who pop into my head are folks I know from work situations -- just saying "you're giving me the creeps" is usually an ineffective way to instigate behavior change. "It makes me nervous when people loom, please stand back a little farther" or other concrete suggestions tend to work better. Since at work I don't have a choice of whether or not to interact with that person again, and would be unprofessional to attempt to drive them away entirely, I try to make specific, positive suggestions. (If you say 'don't run', then most people hear "Run" -- if you say 'Please Walk'," they hear "Walk".) It's taken me a while to realize that there are people who genuinely don't understand why what they're doing is objectionable, but who are nice enough to try to stop if you give them a different suggestion.

I also, at times, fib. Especially for that "do you want to go for coffee" line, where my answer is, "thank you, but there's a lovely person in my life who has first dibs on my evenings." Yeah, sometimes it's Sherlock Holmes... But he is quite lovely, yes?