[ SECRET POST #1961 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1961 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

[velvet-mace.livejournal.com]

Yeah, public displays of affection in fic embarrass me. They do in real life as well. Holding hands, okay, a quick kiss, fine. But making out and feeling each other up while everyone stares? HELL NO. And sex in public -- god no. I've been forced to be a voyeur irl and I hated every second of it. What's more it takes all the intimacy out of the situation.

[ologist.livejournal.com]

Forced to be a voyeur? How's that work then, could you not have just left?

[cobryn-moy.livejournal.com]

I do get that this is a cultural thing, but "could you not just have left" gets my hackles up here. Like no, it's not up to me to have to leave the place I need to be to do the thing I'm doing just because that couple over there have no fucking manners and think public spaces are theirs to co-opt.

Because where I'm from, PDA are definitely coded as intensely selfish. Leeway for airports or stations, but after that if you need to make a display of your affection in public it will be read as attention-seeking. You're attempting to force other people into a role you've prescripted for 'the audience' in the psychodrama of your relationship.

Maybe for most who engage in PDAs you actually are oblivious to those around you. But culturally people in my country treat public spaces as an open conversation where you are assumed to be conscious of the people in your vicinity.

[(Anonymous)]

Not always, no. A person can't just leave their job - at least, not without risking punishment and they don't always have the authority needed to be able to tell someone to knock it off, especially if they're clients.

[velvet-mace.livejournal.com]

No, because it was 4 am and I was in my bedroom. Thin walls, my neighbors moaned and screamed and said everything they were doing. Being woken up on a work day at 4 am to hear "PUT IT IN MY BUTT, PUT IT IN MY BUTT!!! OH GOD!!!" fuck. No. My ears were raped.

And it wasn't like they didn't know we could hear them. We knocked on the wall. We told them. But it didn't stop them. When we finally called their landlord and got them moved out they waited until the last day they could, then moved out in the small hours of the night, on a work night, making as much noise as they could.

And no I couldn't move. We owned our condo, they were renters.

[(Anonymous)]

That is so fucking far from PDA, you know. You were in your condo. They were in theirs. It's not their fault the walls are thin.

[velvet-mace.livejournal.com]

Hearing is a sense. I did not want to be hearing them. I told them to stop. They didn't stop.

No it's not far from PDA, if you are having sex in a way where people can't avoid noticing what you are doing, you are impinging on them. They could have had sex in a different room and they could have had sex a hell of a lot quieter. They were doing it deliberately to be heard.

[otakugal15.livejournal.com]

Fucking this. Some people are screamers or loud moaners and can get easily carried away with their partner. Trying to stifle that can sometimes dampen the fun and intimacy. But if they were in THEIR apartment/condo, then they had every fucking right to do what they were doing, how they wanted to do it.

Don't like it? Invest in some ear plugs. Loud sounds bother me when I sleep, depending on where i am. I steal a pair of my bf's ear plugs from work. They work wonders~!!

Hell, what if it was an unfortunately thin walled house? It's still THEIR domain and they can do what they want. You don't like? Fuck off.

If it was actual PDA, then I can understand it, but it wasn't.

[ologist.livejournal.com]

Ah, okay, I understand. That really sucks. :(