[ SECRET POST #1994 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1994 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

OP here.

Maybe. The movie hits a little too close to home not to make the comparison, though.

I tried telling my mom about what I think once, and she started crying because she was so "afraid for me". I couldn't bear to see her cry and I didn't want her to be disappointed in me/scared for me, so I pretended that it was just a phase. If I had to tell her again and wanted it to stick, she would be brokenhearted, and I'm sure my dad would be too. I don't want to live with them while causing them pain, thanks.

[(Anonymous)]

Yikes, well, I'm sorry about that. It sounds like you're probably going to have to just decide that living your life is worth the hurt that your parents are really causing to themselves by being so narrow-minded. If they can't love you because of something so silly as a belief system, then that's their problem. I know women who are like your mom sounds, and they thrive on using their tears to manipulate people. I don't really see the connection to the movie at all, but whatever works for you.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah. I know I'm going to have to make that decision sooner or later, but right now I can't even think about it. They may be pretty narrow-minded, but they're wonderful in every other way and I can't bring myself to break away from them like that just yet.

[rapunzelita]

I would advise you to be careful, though... If you keep hiding who you are for the sake of your parents' love, you'll just end up resenting them, which isn't really going to be any better. And even if they have a pretty emotional/narrow-minded reaction at first, they might just need some time to cool down and process through this. It doesn't mean the damage will be impossible to fix. (And I'd say that if they are that hurt over a matter of personal beliefs, to the point where they can never get over it, well, it's for them to feel guilty, not you.)

Mostly I think you shouldn't feel guilty. I know it's pretty easy to say and more difficult to actually do, but you don't have to feel guilty for choosing to be who you and and who you want to be.

[(Anonymous)]

Not sure of the OPs issues, but when you consider the girls who have been murdered by their families in Pakistan, and in Britain, the so called "honour killings", if a mother says she is scared for her child, it may well be very serious to have different beliefs from your parents.