[ SECRET POST #2002 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2002 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 2 - text comments ].
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Comments

[natural_blue_26.livejournal.com]

Then if I'm understanding the secret right, a few seconds of recovering Korra eating food (and grant it, talking with food in her mouth) was the worst part of the entire episode? What about the Bolin & Pabu noodle scene or the Bolin & Korra not!date, then? (Leaving out all the other times characters have eaten on A:tLA and every other show ever. That must make it hard for you to watch a ton of other shows, too.)

Also, I have no idea how you go anywhere in public ever. People chew gum, drink coffee, whatever *everywhere*. If there some kind of therapy around for this bothering you less? Because short of moving high to a Tibetan mountain I have no idea how you can avoid normal people making normal people noises forever.

[(Anonymous)]

I get the feeling you think it's a choice, with your use of "normal"

Misophonia is not a choice. Trust me, I would love to be able to ignore my trigger sounds (Misophonia covers more than just chewing/smacking sounds, btw) It's an irrational hardwired response to certain sounds. It's extremely hard to deal with, and right now there is no cure.

I use headphones when I can, listening to music to block out my triggers, but it gets harder when I'm unable to do so.

And I would love to be "normal" and not go into irrational fear/anger whenever I hear someone smacking on gum. :/

[natural_blue_26.livejournal.com]

My use of normal was more to imply the "usual, average, or typical state or condition" meaning it's hard to find anyone who manages to eat completely silently. Sorry I didn't clarify further.

[(Anonymous)]

Ah, I see. Alright then.

My personal triggers go beyond just smacking/chewing sounds, however. It's fairly new to the medical world (or rather, coming to light) so there's only theories about it at the moment (Or some doctors completely ignore it/say it's just OCD, when it's not...)

The one theory that I agree with is the incorrectly hard-wired brain. People who suffer from misophonia also tend to have a higher ability to notice sounds. I myself, no matter how much I try sometimes, can still pick up my triggers, despite how loud the background sounds are. It makes every day things like riding a bus or going to the movies very hard.

[(Anonymous)]

that's really interesting, i had never heard of this before.

i have a pretty low tolerance for background noise in general (i can't block it out easily) but i wouldn't call it a problem, i just prefer quiet.
a lot of people tend to express irritation at people eating with their mouth open.
however, the fact that you find doing everyday things really difficult because of it, sounds like it's a geniune issue

[(Anonymous)]

Not just me, a lot of people, actually. If you watch the 20/20 episode on it, there is an example of a teenage girl who can barely be near her mother, because her mother constantly does her trigger sounds. It's very sad. Or mothers who have it and are afraid they won't be able to eat with their children when they start eating crunchy food. Or the man who can't work with his business partner very well because he triggers him a lot.

There are different levels of misophonia. At worst I'm a nine, and it's very, very hard to deal with, because I can't block it out. I work in retail, so I do my best to grit and bear it, but it's so painful for me. I can't sit in the breakroom unless I have my MP3 player. Sometimes, if I forgot to bring it, or the battery dies, I have to just sit in a stall in the bathroom until my breaks are over :/ It's...something I would love for there to be a cure for.

[fuchsiascreams]

Out of curiosity - have you ever been diagnosed with a mood or anxiety disorder? I just found out about this today because of this post and made the connection between misophonia and my anxiety disorder. Apparently cognitive behavioral therapy can be very helpful, but unfortunately I know how difficult it is to find a psychologist who specializes in that..

[(Anonymous)]

I've never been diagnosed with anything, no. When I was 13, up to about 21 (I'm twenty four now) I used to randomly have panic attacks. They'd randomly happen at night, but they happened less and less, and I haven't had one for a few years now.

It could be related!

[otakugal15]

Wow. I'm the complete opposite. O_o

I can't stand quiet. I have have to SOMETHING going on in the background, even if I don't really pay attention to it. So I usually have a movie or my iPod playing when I'm doing stuff.

[philstar22]

Is it always the same things that trigger people? I'm curious because there are certain sounds that me feel really angry and uncomfortable. Gum would be one of them. But food isn't. Chewing doesn't bother me unless I've had a really bad day.

So I'm curious if it is possible to have it and not be triggered by food noises.

[(Anonymous)]

Food is a common trigger, but not everyone with misophonia is triggered by it! There is a long list of triggers, but here's a site with some information:

http://misophoniasupport.tumblr.com/moreinfo

http://www.misophonia-uk.org/the-misophonia-activation-scale.html


Some non-food related triggers that I can think of are: Heaving breathing/sniffling/snoring, heavy footsteps, cutlery on plates, metal on metal, dripping sounds, paper folding, cutlery on teeth, tapping, clicking of pens, sneezing, throat clearing, animals licking themselves.

[philstar22]

Thanks. That's helpful. The cutlery on plates and teath, metal on metal, dripping sounds, and clicking of pens are all among the things that make me react.

[fuchsiascreams]

The triggers are different for everybody. Food seems to be the most common trigger for misophonia, but I have it too and the sound of people eating does not bother me at all.

[philstar22]

Thanks. That's helpful. I've always wondered why certain sounds can make me so angry I literally feel like punching something. Now I have a possible explanation.

[toshi_hakari]

I can only speak from my own experience obviously, but I'm not annoyed by EVERY single sound there is. People drinking coffee is fine, but my dad and my co-worker have a certain kind of annoying smacking/chewing noise they make that just drives me nuts. I wish I could ignore it, but I can't.

At the same time, I can go out into a coffeeshop or restaurant with friends and not be bothered. It depends on the type of noise people are making.

Also, most of time I say nothing, because other people will be like: "OMG, how can you be so sensitive?!" as if it was my fault :/

[fuchsiascreams]

It can be just specific people making those sounds. For example, the sound of my dad coughing complete enrages me to a point that I want to hit him, but I don't mind anybody else coughing. This is a common experience for people with misophonia.

Incidentally, going out in public CAN be very difficult. I had a friend from another country stay with me for ten days and by the fifth day, I was so completely enraged by her small involuntary noises and movements (the way she chewed, the way she breathed, the way she moved her foot while she was watching TV) that I almost wanted to call her parents and ask them to come back and pick her up early. It wasn't that I didn't like her - she was my best friend - it was just that the reaction was so extreme and involuntary that I had literally no control over it. There are ways to deal with it (most of them involve doing things like leaving the room, plugging your ears, or listening to music), but if you can't avoid the sound, there are some types of cognitive behavioral therapy that can help.

Also, the reaction is 100% not in our control.