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disclaimer: I have no idea who these people are.

But what the hell is up with "if you don't immediately confront a rape threat it doesn't count"? Not everyone knows how to handle that situation or are safe to confront it.

This is what went down.

Spoony makes a stupid joke, basically he says "If things don't work out with your boyfriend, I'll tie you to a pipe in my basement and love you, my way"

JO wasn't offended, he apologized, it faded away.

Then one month later Lupa starts a huge post about it, basically attacking what he said. Long after it was handled.

This isn't a rape victim coming forward later on. This is a friend who, instead of making it an issue when it was relevant, waited a month and then decided to complain about it. It's two different things.

I'm still iffy on it because she may have felt conflicted and confused and just didn't want to make a bigger deal of it at the time. Did he say or do something problematic that made her feel like maybe it was a continuing problem? A month doesn't seem that long to me when concerning trying to deal with how you feel about something a friend said. Was it just a trash post or was she calling out a problem?

Edited 2012-06-28 02:39 (UTC)

It was just a post trashing him. She then got her boyfriend to join in on the trashing. He handled it very poorly, but it was extremely pointless on her end.

Yeah, I didn't even see that post and I was just super uncomfortable about the specific way Lupa was going about it. I mean, Spoony was making an ass of himself in public, but that's no reason for the other people on TGWTG to ALSO fight with him IN PUBLIC.

The whole kerfluffle has just made me take a break from watching all their vids (which to be fair, I was already watching less and less of for other reasons) because all I can see now is a bunch of depressing twits shouting LOOK AT MEEEEE online.

/my thoughts on yaoi

Oh I agree. Reading how after the fact she was basically bear baiting him was extremely uncomfortable, not to mention unprofessional. Like two children fighting with each other, and the mother chooses one kid's side over the other. Just, ugh.

HE. WAS. STALKING. SCARLETT.

You disgusting rape apologist. You know why it took a fucking month? Because she TRIED TALKING TO HIM FIRST. Just because your precious fucking spoony, whose videos got me through a lot of shit and who I loved and who TRIGGERED THE FUCK out of me on twitter when he started talking about who he wanted to rape, DID SOMETHING WRONG. He did A LOT of things WRONG.

Being Bipolar, which I am, does not suddenly make his behavior OKAY or that people should have been walking on fucking egg shells and not called the asshole out.

He's driven away Roses. Fucking Pushing up Roses. The nicest most easy to get along with person on the site.

One, I'm not a rape apologist sweetie. Just thicker skinned. Two, I don't care for spoony, -at all- The only time I've seen the guy was in Kickasia, and some spinoff with Sage. (The only people I watch on that site are Critic, Todd, Cr, Snob, and Sage)

Also, did you get this angry when there was an -actual- rape apologist, Nostalgia Chic? I bet not. (Her defending her friend's song about rape)

The only one being an apologist here is you. Lupa did not handle it any better than Spoony. Harassing the guy on twitter about his ex, and whatnot, is just as unprofessional as him making an asshat out of himself. I'm sorry I can see both people at fault, and not just one.

Asshole. He threatened to rape people. I'm sorry if someone with female parts didn't call out someone for thinking it was okay to joke/threaten to rape a friend in a way YOU think is okay.

And I don't WATCH the Chic because hey GUESS THE FUCK WHAT? I don't like her, I thought the rape rap - which was taken down was appropriate at all. But you know what not the same? A woman doing that and a man 'jokingly' threatening to rape someone then getting upset because someone calls his ass out on it. Because guess who has more power, guess who is more likely to actually make good on such a 'joke', that's right A MAN.

Stop defending Spoony. If you don't know the back history? Then knock the fuck off defending someone that thinks saying he's always want to rape different female coworkers and calling woman C*unts is okay.

Hi, I'm a woman. I have those magical female parts you speak of. Also, rape, btw, occurs more for men than women, so...nice little sexism there, hon. (And before you go LIESRAWRCAPS, it's a fact. Because of the prison system, men now lead women in cases of rape)

There's one thing to defend a friend, it's another thing entirely when you go to a co-worker's twitter going "Lol did your dog find you a new girlfriend, lol your ex, lol" Spoony is an asshat, and a bastard, but I don't think Lupa is the saint you think she is. Don't get me started on JO's homophobic comments, either. None of these people are completely wonderful.

The only fangirl/boy here is you, actually. I couldn't care less for Spoony, I just find blind CAPSLOCKRAGE to be pointless and annoying. I'm sorry I can see things impartially?

Huh? You call that trashing?

When it happens a month after the fact, and serves no purpose other than to shout to the public "LOOK AT ME, I'M MAD, GRRR" then yes. She was not 'offended for a friend' If she had been, she would have come out when it actually happened. She brought it up long after it mattered, it just screams "UH I NEED A REASON...OH WAIT!" type of thing :P

But it did seem to serve a purpose, to talk about rape jokes. She even said something along the lines of "Spoony agrees that it was a shitty thing, so why are you people still defending it?".

If it weren't for her going to his twitter page and throwing around comments about his exgirlfriend, and whatnot, I might have agreed with you.

I don't defend his behavior, just I don't think she was any less guilty than he was during the whole fiasco.

Oh, I didn't know about that.Not going to look it up tho.

Don't worry, I don't care at all about any of those people, I just had seen her tumblr and thought it was odd to blame her for that entry.

The one I can remember the most is her comment asking if his dog had found him a new "mommeh" yet, which was just a low blow IMHO. Of course it got silly when he retweeted a comment about her beating her cat with a hose and thinking it was cute. It really did come across as two people who dislike each other finding things from the past to throw in each other's faces. IDK. :S

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