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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2012-06-27 06:54 pm

[ SECRET POST #2003 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2003 ⌋

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(Anonymous) 2012-06-28 01:44 pm (UTC)(link)
People pop up all the time on FS saying how they think liking BDSM is unhealthy, about how that makes them a bad feminist, or any other manner of "this thing isn't socially acceptable, and it is therefore unhealthy". And FS often tells them they're perfectly healthy, it's just society's outlook that isn't.

Just because OP thinks it's unhealthy doesn't mean that actual relationship is or would be. He might just not understand what exactly makes relationships unhealthy.
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[personal profile] insanenoodlyguy 2012-06-28 04:46 pm (UTC)(link)
If it's based off twilight? When an emotionally and physically controlling stalker so unstable he's ready to kill himself if you arent with him dates somebody who risks getting injured and raped just to think about you again and otherwise descends into a comatose state of blah? And all of this not a forged passion from realizing your a perfect fit, but some love at first fucking sight shit where they may as well get married tomorrow cause nobody else will ever do for either?

The bdsm component is secondary. I think OP's right about it being unhealthy. They want that kinda intense passion but forgot that too much of anything is bad.

Co-dependence is NEVER a good thing.
Edited 2012-06-28 16:53 (UTC)

(Anonymous) 2012-06-28 05:23 pm (UTC)(link)
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Except that those obsessive relationships are unhealthy. Period.

There is a difference between a sexual practice that seeks to be Safe, Sane, and Consensual - aka BDSM; and the obsessive relationship the OP wants. There are many studies done about these types of relationships that show it is unhealthy. This is not a time when 'oh mainstream just thinks it's wrong but it's just not for everyone'. It is wrong.

It is an unhealthy relationship for both participants in an emotional, mental, and many times physical/sexual way.