[ SECRET POST #2025 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2025 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Pokemon Special]


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[Avengers/Thor]

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[Team Fortress 2]


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[Lee Pace]


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[CSI: Miami]


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[Two Men in a Trench]


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Comments

Re: I just really really need to vent

[childings.livejournal.com]

I can actually relate to this a lot. I had a really horrible relationship with my grandmother, and she lived with me my entire life and was somewhat of a third parent to me and my sisters. She was a constant presence in my life all the way up until I moved out to go to college, and around that time she developed really bad dementia (it was after she finally decided to leave my parents' house to live in an assisted living home by herself, so I'm not sure what exactly happened). She was totally out of it for years and spent the last couple of years of life in a nursing home, and the last time I ever saw her she mistook me for my mother. So when she died I didn't really react to it. It didn't help that my family didn't have a funeral for her, they literally had her cremated and we had a barbecue at my parents' house and her urn was sitting on a stool, I just remember being really weirded out and kind of offended that they couldn't even have a proper memorial service of any kind, but my mom said that she stipulated that she didn't want a funeral (which sort of surprises me considering how crazy religious she was?)

In any case, because of this, I mourned sporadically over a period of years. I would get some memory of her, while driving or at work or just randomly, and tear up. But when I first got the phone call about her death, I didn't feel any different. It was just like "oh". So I wouldn't feel too bad about not being upset about your grandfather's death. People mourn in different ways and it doesn't make you a bad person for not crying or being sad. If anything I would probably feel relieved that he's not in pain anymore (I know I was sort of relieved when my grandmother died because I couldn't even imagine being that out of it, and in fact it depressed me to be around her because I realized that if both she and her mother developed dementia and continued to live that long with it, I probably would do, and I would rather die than continue living like that)